Read every word carefully and follow my instructions.
Go to a mirror, look carefully and tell me what you see, how do you feel about the person you see. Are all the thoughts flowing right now negative or you are happy and optimistic about the person you see? Well if its positive thoughts I’m so glad you are happy about the person you saw but if you looked at the mirror and all saw were flaws, imperfections, etc, let’s start again. Follow me; I want to show you something, look at the mirror again and say these words
1. I look beautiful
2. I am strong. I can overcome this
3. I can do it. I will not give up
4. I will not try to be anyone else. Being me is enough.
5. I am amazing
6. I can do anything
Loving oneself is hard at times; you might see flaws or hear so many negative statements from people but don’t let anything get to you, don’t let it make you feel less about yourself. You are amazing! Tell yourself that, believe it and you will see no one can make you feel less about yourself anymore. Confident in loving yourself carries a whole level of beauty, so my dear honeybun, wear that confidence and never take it off. Love your perfection and your flaws, love everything that makes you, you. So keep going to the mirror daily until you believe every word you have said until you finally love yourself.
We all feel tired at one point when it comes to school. It’s draining and stressful, but it’s no reason to give up. School stress is a whole different level, class throughout the day, be pressured by your parents, teachers, etc., to come out first, we feel so tired about the pressure and want to stop trying but no, don’t give up keep pushing. So here are some quotes to keep you going in school;
A friend is a common word with different definition. We surround ourselves with people and call them friends, but we hardly know the ones who are worth the name “friend”. Knowing who your friend are is essential, so we going to do something simple we are going to know who are actually our friends, follow these instructions its time we know our friends
First, pick up a pen and paper. Write your contacts names or simply write down the names of those you call your friend
Now think and answer these questions:
1. How many help you grow either academically, spiritually, career-wise, etc. Do they try to push you to read and get good grades, do they pray with you, or try to push you further in your career? Just think of those that want you to grow or be better?
2. How many ask where you are heading, do they inspire you, motivate you, or encourage you to never give up on what you are doing.
3. To those who waste your time, when they come around, is the only thing they do is gossip and mock people, or do they spend time on social media or watch television all the time.
Don’t get me wrong, going to social media and watching tv isn’t wrong, but if all they do is that without at least asking if you have work or assignment to do or worst, they laugh when you want to work or do homework and make you procrastinate then that’s not a friend
4. Don’t think a friend must always be serious because of the questions written, who do you love being around, who knows how to make you smile, who understands you, who can you be yourself with, who do you have most adventures and memories with.
5. It’s one thing to know the right friends surrounding you, it’s another to be a good friend yourself. Now you have realised your friends, do one last thing, write your name down and answer those questions, are you a good friend to your friends.
There are so many questions to ask yourself when looking at your friends’ areas; you know yourself and what you want in a friend; ask yourself those questions, and be true to yourself.
I hope you know who your friends are and stick with them and just because you realise some of your contact or some people you talk to ain’t your friends doesn’t mean you should stop talking to them.
Be nice to them, still greet them, help them if they need anything, keep showing kindness; they are not monsters because they are not your friends.
I’m sorry this post just came; it was supposed to be dropped yesterday and to be honest with you, I had the time but was tired and overslept. I’ll keep trying my best and post as scheduled, and for those who don’t know the schedule ill post it also. Hope you love my blog; feel free to comment whatever you think, love you guys.
Why not make yourself look good and save money at the same time. Here are 5 beauty hacks that are 100 percent natural and can be made at the comfort of your home.
EGG AND HONEY FACEMASK
Pour an egg white into a bowl and a tablespoon of honey and mix. Apply to skin with a cotton pad. Leave it on until it for 10 to 15minutes, then rinse it off. It helps in preventing breakout and clears acne.
2. HONEY, OLIVE OIL AND SUGAR LIP SCRUB
Mix the one tablespoon of honey with a tablespoon of sugar and half a teaspoon of olive oil (or any natural oil of your choice). Mix properly. Apply to lips with fingertips and massage the lips for 3 to 4 minutes. Rinse with water and dry. It helps remove dead skin and keeps it softer and moisturize.
3. CUCUMBER FOR DARK CIRCLES
Take a cucumber from the fridge, cut it into slices. Apply two pieces on both eyes, make sure the dar circle area is covered. Leave for 15 to 20 minutes and rinse. Rest on the bed or couch when doing it. It helps for dark circles, tired or puffiness of the eyes.
4. NATURAL OIL FOR HAIR GROWTH
Mix castor oil, avocado oil and coconut oil and then apply to hair. The castor helps for hair growth, the avocado oil helps for nourishment, and the coconut oil helps as conditioning. They help in hair growth.
5. SHEA BUTTER OR COCONUT OIL FOR STRETCH MARKS
Use either shea butter or coconut oil. Apply on the area and massage for 5-10 minutes. Do it every day before going to bed.
Everyone needs the motivation to push them forward. There are times you might feel like giving up or you don’t see the importance to anything even yourself, you need to be reminded some of these things. I believe we all need a little motivation sometimes to keep us going, even myself.
Sometimes I get tired or frustrated and feel like giving up mostly in the school and blogging area, then I go straight to a podcast or YouTube videos about motivational speeches related those areas, and it helps a lot. So, I dedicated my Mondays to giving motivational quotes from great men and women to my readers, and I hope it helps.
A previous post of mine spoken on keeping your virginity, and that it is still a trend, but one question came to mind “what if you are old fashioned”.
As much as they are those who are keeping their body, they are also those who lost their virginity. Maybe it wasn’t your fault, and it was taken from you, or you gave it out freely, whatever the case may be. Losing your virginity isn’t the end of the world for you; there is still hope.
I had a plan to write this article myself but then during my research to confirm somethings I saw another fantastic blogger’s work on the same topic, and she put it better. So I decided to post her work and all credit to her, her site is www.thenakedconvos.com. The naked convos (TNC) is an award-winning unique storytelling platform showcasing the best original African stories. Join us and connect with a community of readers and writers.
VIRGIN OR NOT YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO KEEP YOUR BODY CHASTE IN CHRIST
It happened during CDS again.
The “are you a virgin question” was thrown at me.
I smiled and thought, he obviously doesn’t read my blog, neither has he read my book, he’d have known the answer to that question already. My answer to the “are you a virgin question” isn’t one that’s hidden. Almost everyone who really knows me know that I am not a virgin – at least I am not one according to the world’s standards.
In fact, everyone who has had a serious conversation with me about how I came to God already know that yes, I was wrapped in sexual sins before – pornography, masturbation, pre-marital sex and the works for a long time. I even had an abortion(s) while I was in it. And I say this with no iota of pride. I say this because I have been set free from hiding the past and from thinking that I am that same girl who had multiple sexual trysts with a guy who wasn’t her husband.
My book “Chastity For Men” arose out of a deep burden in my heart to let men know that they can also keep themselves chaste even though they may have fallen into sexual sins in the past.
My intention was to only collate a series of guest posts from men who were living chaste and when God asked me to also share my story, I balked and cried at the thought of the shame I felt that He wanted to put me through.
I remember postponing the pull to type out my “sex-timony” (as one of my blog readers called it).
I was scared of what people would think.
Yes I had this testimony where God had pulled me out of the grips of sexual addiction, but yes, I was also ashamed of how I would be judged by men.
Almost everyone thinks that a woman who isn’t a virgin (physically) has no right to talk about chastity.
People think that a woman who isn’t a virgin is already spoiled goods, hence the “are you a virgin question”.
Translated into “you don’t have to keep your body chaste anymore, after all you are not a virgin”.
Well, as a lady who isn’t a virgin…
In fact as a lady who isn’t a virgin and has also even struggled with sexual addiction for years, I believe that I am qualified to answer the question on whether a non-virgin still needs to keep her self chaste and abstain from every sexual-related activity before marriage.
I will answer this question by giving you details of my own life and also by sharing the night and day difference God has made of my life with you all.
My journey with sexual sins started when I was in secondary school.
It started with hiding to watch my brother’s “blue films” and stealing his erotic magazines to read.
Somehow, I graduated into masturbation and got hooked.
From masturbation I graduated into having a boyfriend and having sex.
And then I graduated from having sex into committing abortions that arose from having sex before marriage.
I could stop right here and tell you that you need to abstain from sex because it leads to unplanned pregnancy and psychological trauma when you decide to abort the pregnancy but that will only be half the truth.
The entire truth would be that it is only with Christ as the foundation that chastity finds its true value.
But let me complete my story and show you how true my above my statement is…
I finally gave my life to Christ and decided to leave relationships that weren’t God’s will for me but the masturbation and porn wasn’t so easy to leave behind.
There was just a stronghold that I couldn’t seem to break free of on my own.
I was a tongue talking believer who still browsed X-rated sites at night and slipped fingers under my panties to relieve myself of built in sexual tension I had stoked by awakening sexual feelings before it’s time.
Some persons may argue that masturbation isn’t a sin as its not expressly stated in the Bible and to them, I have just one way you can ascertain the truth for yourself.
Can you browse X-rated sites, masturbate and say “Lord, this is for your glory?”
We are to be led by the Spirit in us as believers, not by the world’s ideologies.
If you are truly born again and are wrapped in sexual addictions – pre-marital sex, pornography, masturbation, etc… do you feel the spark to rush in and worship God after you are done?
Despite what the world may tell you or what justification we may want to make for certain things, if we truly have the Spirit of God in us, He leads us into all truth.
For me I knew that masturbation and pornography were a big no-no for God.
They were drawing me back from functioning in my identity in Christ Jesus.
I spent days wrapped in guilt and condemnation instead of days wrapped in the joy of the Lord.
Some of us are wrapped in that same guilt trap today.
We just don’t know how to stop. We make decisions to stay off sex and lustful pleasures, but he/she touches us and we melt into butter.
I have found this to be true; we can have victory over sexual temptations if we would only just hearken to God’s Word to FLEE and not reason it out with him/her.
Like my Pastor Nat would say, “Don’t dance around crayfish if you are a rat”.
So where was I with my story?
Oh yes, the struggle to be free from addiction to masturbation and pornography.
I struggled with this for years after being born again before I found this truth…
I wasn’t supposed to be struggling anyway, I was simply supposed to “walk in the Spirit and I shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16)
For all the times I fell into sexual sins, I let the flesh rule.
I had unguarded moments of walking in the flesh; the perfect environment for sin to thrive.
I chose to load up an X-rated site instead of a Christian blog.
I chose to pick up an explicit romantic novel instead of a novel like Karen Kingsbury’s which would feed my soul.
I stoked up on the lust of the flesh instead of the power of the Spirit.
All the years of struggling came to an end after just one Word that came alive in me.
It’s been one year going and I have neither watched a pornographic movie nor slipped my hands under my panties to pleasure myself.
I have seen tremendous growth with God; one unhindered by sexual sins.
I have lived in the victory over sin that Christ has given to me, not in the shame and guilt sin brings.
And this victory was what I simply wanted men to walk in when I put together my book “Chastity For Men”.
I mentioned that I even had an abortion while I was in the world (the story is on my blog) and was held under the weight of psychological trauma for a long time.
Those who know my story wonder about this girl who simply shines her light in Christ right now… they don’t know that I am awed at myself too, only God could have wrought this change in me.
So for everyone who says that a non-virgin doesn’t have any need to keep her/his body chaste anymore, I say that’s a lie.
You are as chaste as anyone if you are in Christ Jesus.
I do not even remember that I was that sin stained girl in the past anymore except when I have to share my story like now.
It’s almost as though there’s a demarcation between that person and me right now.
When the Bible says that you are a new creation in Christ Jesus, it means it.
My past cannot recognize me right now, never.
And I have gotten this truth about virginity that the world seems to be missing out on…
“For God in all his fullness was pleased to live in Christ, and through him God reconciled everything to himself. He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ’s blood on the cross. This includes you who were once far away from God. You were his enemies, separated from him by your evil thoughts and actions. Yet now he has reconciled you to himself through the death of Christ in his physical body. As a result, he has brought you into his own presence, and you are holy and blameless as you stand before him without a single fault.”
I am not pure as a result of my virginity, I am pure because God has made me so by virtue of His blood that was shed for me on the cross of calvary.
He did a perfect work there, so much so that God doesn’t look at whether my hymen has been broken or not as a prerequisite for me chaste in Him.
I am chaste in Him once I accept Him into my life and recognize the fact that who I was before I came to Him is dead and gone.
So if anyone asks me if I am a physical virgin, I would say no.
But then I am more than a physical virgin right now, I am pure and chaste because God calls me so.
I am not keeping my body because it’s a thing of pride, I am keeping it for the one who saved me. He says that my body is His, it’s not meant to be given to any Tom and Harry who asks.
My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I don’t want to desecrate it with sexual sins.
He has saved me and redeemed me from all those sins. Now I am pure in Him and by His grace I will keep on being so.
To all the re-virgins out there like me, you are as pure and chaste as any “virgin” you know.
The worth of your body isn’t in what the world sees.
The worth of your body lies in the one who has washed and cleansed you from sins.
He has called you holy and that is who you are.
For everyone who struggles with sexual sins…
I understand how it is because I was once like you.
I cannot condemn you, I can only give you what God gave me – LOVE irrespective of what maybe happening in your life.
I can also give you the reassurance from my own story that you can live in purity and chastity again and rise above sexual sins.
God gave me the go-ahead to share my story because He knows that it would free others from the world’s orientation and belief about sex.
I was ashamed to share before now but now I see.
I see that the world needs light to shine on their ideologies about sex.
I see that men and women need to rise above the shame that arises from sexual addictions.
I see that we wrap a lot of our struggles under the carpet and we have no one to talk to because everyone seems to be so perfect.
Everyone talks about getting married a virgin, no one talks about the fact that they slept with 11 men and had abortions before they came to Jesus.
We, believers seem to forget that we are all imperfect and only Jesus’s perfection has made us who we are.
Those who have been healed by Jesus need to share their stories and share the light.
We need to tell others that this light can make them whole too.
And if you struggle with sexual sins, I am certain that if you are ready to let God work on you like He did on me, you can live in victory over them.
It would take days for me to reproduce everything about my story and the book that arose from my story with sexual sins here.
But the book – “Chastity For Men” (the e-copies) is for free and you can get more on getting freedom from sexual sins in it.
The title suggests that it’s for men and it was written with men in mind but the steps really can be applied and followed by everyone.
The light and knowledge in it is for everyone and I even got biased a little bit and added an exclusive chapter for the ladies.
I am certain that this book will be a blessing to you like it has been to others and you can get it by clicking here.
Remember that virgin or not, you have every right to keep your body chaste in Christ.
Whenever you feel that you don’t…
Whenever you feel like you are dirt and feel condemned by the standards of men on being pure…
Remember me – the soiled stained girl with the shady past – the girl who had blood on her hands from killing her own babies – the girl who was wrapped in sexual addictions… but who is now a pure bride of Christ Jesus.
Remember me the girl who God still uses for His purposes and be encouraged.
If you are in Christ, then you are pure.
You are holy.
And being a virgin (or not) can never change that fact.
Well, guys, it’s time to cry your heart out. You know those times you feel heartbroken or just in need of some love, well I’m bringing you some romantic movies that can cause your heart to melt. Crying is a good thing; we have to let our emotions out once in a while because holding everything isn’t always good for your health.
So, before you begin to watch these movies, there are some rules:
1. Don’t do anything else; only focus on the film.
2. Don’t forget to switch off the light; it always set the mood.
3. Open your heart
4. Most importantly grab some tissues, you’ll need it.
Here are our picks:
1. Irreplaceable you
Abbie is diagnosed with cancer, knowing she will soon go, she is determined to find a new love for her fiancé and soulmate Sam. This movie is a real tear-jerker, just imagining trying to find a new love for your partner just because you’ll soon go. That’s love at its peak.
Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.
2. The fault in our stars
Meet Hazel Grace, who has cancer and live in her sad world until she meets Augustus, who shows her life is worth living even if you don’t live long. I believe this movie has a message, and it’s a movie worth watching to learn that message and also cry. Promise me you will watch it “Okay“.
Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Disney+, HBO.
3. A walk to remember
He agreed not to fall in love with her, but why would he, he thought to himself, she was in a low class, had a weird sense of fashion, and so much more. Still love has a way of crawling in; this is Landon and Jamie’s love story.
Where to watch: Netflix, Disney+, Amazon.
4. Me before you
Louisa Clark just lost her job, and she’s left with only one work, that is taking care of Will Traynor, the hateful man who got paralyzed after an accident. This movie is an emotional roller coaster, so get ready to cry.
Where to watch: Netflix, Disney+, Amazon.
5. Five feet apart
Even five feet couldn’t keep them for loving. Teen romance is just so beautiful but not always the ending you want it to be. Meet Stella and Will, who lived their adventure in a hospital and lived it so happily.
Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.
This is one movie that you wouldn’t see the end coming. Trapped in a horrible hurricane, Tami and Richard try to find a way to survive. With so much misfortune and fear, their love is the only thing keeping them going.
Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.
7. La La Land
Is your dream greater than the love you have? Sebastian and Mia are put to the test through their troubles in fulfilling their dreams which they both work so hard to achieve.
Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Hulu.
8. If I stay
In coma wondering, if the person you love will ever wake up. Adam is faced with this difficulty as his love is laying down fighting for her life. Will Mia ever wake up, find out.
Where to watch: Amazon, Hulu.
Who said animations couldn’t be romantic? Carl still in pain of losing the love of his life, his wife, Ellie, was encouraged by a young boy, Russell to fulfil the promise he made to his wife.
Where to watch: Disney+, Amazon.
10. About time
Given the ability to time travel, what will you use it for? Well, Tim Lake used his extraordinary ability to chase his love, Mary, but he had some troubles along the way.
Hey Hon buns, so guess what it is Friday Funday. I dedicated every Friday to give a form of entertainment, something to keep you company either movies to watch, novels to read, or even comics. So don’t miss any Friday posts. Well, today is about comics and I really do think people should be reading them more, just to relieve stress or for laughs and so much more. I really do admire comic illustrators because it is amazing what they do and they are really talented. So I’m sharing some of the comics I read on Instagram and totally will recommend to anyone, hope you enjoy it. I will also love to hear the comics you read, just drop them at the comment sections.
TAG COMICS / @tag comics
I love this comic so much, it is an African comic, so many amazing people work on it. It is so relatable, I find myself in the comic, it has humor. If you just need a good laugh just follow them and scroll down and begin to enjoy your time in it. So many stories to get read in this particular comic and when you check it out tell me your favourite character.
2. THE GOOD ADVICE CUPCAKE @thegoodadvicecupcake
Cutest cupcake ever! This is where to get only positive vibes! There is so much joy, happiness, kindness, it’s like a rainbow in this comic and I totally love it because it is not every time you will be happy or maybe you had a bad day or you just feel down about yourself. Well, I recommend you start following this comic because everything will just change. I really love the person or team behind this for spreading so much love daily and making people feel special about themselves. So what are you waiting for guys go check it out.
3. HUBMAN AND CHUBGIRL @hubman.chubgirl
I love these couples and also firstly want to congratulate them on their baby, Floobie. Hubman and chubgirl adventures is really cute, full of love and it is so amazing what they just do. The comic is a chilled and relaxing one filled with laughs and entertainment, hope you enjoy it.
4. THE POTATO COUPLE @thepotatocouple
Cuteness at its peak! If you are in need of a heart melting comic you are in the right place. This comic soften your heart and make you just want to fall in love, their adventures are the cuteness and i totally love them, hope you do too. Before i forget the graphics are so cute.
5. SAM @samtheartkid
This is a casual and cool comic for relaxation and entertainment. Sam’s adventures are practically his thoughts in drawngs and it is really student related. Go take a look and enjoy your time there and let me not forget i am a huge fan of his illustrations, he is really talented. Tell me what you think at the comments.
First apologises for the late post been busy with school. I really hope you guys like it and also if you have any other comic you could recommended and comment.
“Your virginity should be secured”, they were told
But now they choose to follow the crowd
Corrupting their thoughts with the words of a friend
Corrupting their eyes with the nakedness of the screen
And opening their bodies for display.
Generations has fallen
They destroy their bodies and tie their souls unknowingly
They forget the word of the Lord
And leave a mess in the temple where He dwells
They put Him off his throne in their heart
And crown pleasure their king
O future generation
Do not be deceived by the people
Do not let the world lie to you
Hear me out loud
Secure the bag
Hold your flower
Being a virgin doesn’t make you less a teen or an adult
I speak not only to the ladies
For it is presumed to the world to all the female
I also speak to the males
Wait till marriage
Virginity is still a trend”.
I believe this issue is getting worst each day, people losing their virginity and they don’t see the value especially the case of the teenagers. I know you want to fulfill your desire but you have control over your flesh, don’t let your flesh control you. All you need is the Holy Spirit.
Well, there are those whose virginity has already been taken away either willingly, by force, or even some that are just lost and tired of failed love and chose to take this path, it’s okay it’s not over for you, stay tuned for my next post and find hope.