BEAUTY IS PAIN

These three words always get me upset, but to an extent it is true, so I can’t complain.

My mother always told me the exact words every time I am making my hair and complaining that it hurt; she would “Beauty is pain”, but then who beauty help. So no matter the tears, I was never allowed to cut my hair.

But what if I don’t want to be beautiful? What is so wrong with looking ugly. My skull hurts from this hair, but I look so pretty every time I check the mirror, so I always tell myself, “three more days and the pain will be all over”.

The crazy thing it always did, but recently I am tired, not only of the pain but just the thoughts of making it. All I need is ten wigs, different colours and styles and I’ll cut my hair.

When I was little, my mother always said cutting my hair as a girl wasn’t good; she would tell some stories and say a few things and boom, I wouldn’t want to cut my hair again, mothers jazz.

Funny thing, now I’m older, once I complained about my hair she would be willing even to help me cut it, the irony right.

Don’t look at me like something is wrong with me. I have a tender scalp, only those that have the same scalp as me will understand. When I am relaxing my hair, I can’t stay up to 5minutes (please tell me I am not the only one). I hardly change the person making my hair because of the pain and they are used to me, once the making process begins, I can cry. Yeah, it’s that bad.

Now you may wonder why I can’t barb my hair and relieve myself from this stress once and for all, well so many reasons are holding me down;

1. Nigeria’s heat (if you live in this country, you can relate)

I doubt I’ll carry my cut hair out due to some personal reasons, so I’ll have to wear a wig and trust me when I say this country sun isn’t playing.

2. Lol, I don’t even have the wigs.

Currently, I have one, but I don’t want to wear one throughout my life until my wardrobe is blessed with two or more wigs.

3.  Lowkey, I love braids.

Yes, I love the fact you can do any style when it comes to braids and their low budget.

4. This will sound silly, but I might look ugly.

Yes, I am human and have some insecurities that I am still dealing with, so yes, I don’t want to.

I tried going natural though, and well, let’s say it didn’t work out for me. Lol.

So if I ever cut my hair in the future, don’t worry honeybuns, I will surely gist you about it.

5 UNIQUE CHRISTMAS GIFTS FOR HER

It’s Christmas season, and you still haven’t gotten your love a gift because you have no idea what, well I got you covered. These are five unique Christmas gifts to surprise her with:

1. COOK FOR HER

      Surprise her with your cooking, go ahead into the kitchen and make her favourite meal. Now don’t call anyone to do it for you if you don’t know how to prepare the dish go online for help and follow the recipe give or call a friend to tell you the steps to cook it. Just make it yourself that matters.


2. MOVIE NIGHT

     Ok, so lets set the place up, switch off the light, get some drinks and her favourite snacks and don’t forget the popcorn. What’s her best movie or what kind of movie does she like, get it and cuddle up together and watch it. Most importantly sleep before the movie night, giving her your time and love is everything.


3. A PLAYLIST

      Make a playlist for her, either from all the songs you two have memories with or just the type of songs or artist she loves and play it to surprise her.


4. A SCRAPBOOK

       Walk her through the journey where it all began with the both of you through pictures and videos. Take her through memory lane and laugh at the good old times.


5. SAY YOUR VOWS

       It is important to say those words in your heart, give her that speech, those feelings that come up every time you see her. Tell her how much you love her, express it and you could write it down to say it.

THE HEALING PROCESS

In one of my previous post “The Rebound,” I said I’d write about how to get over your ex. Well, that’s a whole healing process, and there is something you need to know, it takes time. Your not magically going to forget the memories or stop feeling the pain in a week or a month and for some people it takes a long time like maybe a year or more.

It’s going to hurt when you see them, you will go through the pictures and memories with tears, people will keep asking you what went wrong but the pain may not allow you to say it because it might end in tears, but it’s good to feel the pain, cry out, punch your pillow, do whatever you think, its all part of the healing process.

So I realised I have written about this or similar in a previous post of mine, so I am not going to write today I’ll just put the post below and hopes it helps.


How to get over your ex

10 MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES FOR STUDENTS

We all feel tired at one point when it comes to school. It’s draining and stressful, but it’s no reason to give up. School stress is a whole different level, class throughout the day, be pressured by your parents, teachers, etc., to come out first, we feel so tired about the pressure and want to stop trying but no, don’t give up keep pushing. So here are some quotes to keep you going in school;

1. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”

ALBERT EINSTEIN

2. Never let the fear of striking out stop you from playing the game.”

BABE RUTH

3. “Study while others are sleeping; work while others are loafing; prepare while others are playing; and dream while others are wishing.”

WILLIAM ARTHUR WARD

4. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”

ROY T. BENNETT

5. “Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing yourself and turn it into something positive.”

LEAH LABELLE

6. “Don’t quit yet, the worst moments are usually followed by the most beautiful silver linings. You have to stay strong, remember to keep your head up and remain hopeful.”

UNKNOWN

7. “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.”

ROCKY BALBOA

8. “Don’t give up. There are too many nay-sayers out there who will try to discourage you. Don’t listen to them. The only one who can make you give up is yourself.”

SIDNEY SHELDON

9. “You can’t let your failures define you. You have to let your failures teach you.”

BARACK OBAMA

10. “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.”

H. JACKSON BROWN JR

10 SAD ROMANTIC MOVIES THAT WILL LEAVE YOU CRYING

Don’t forget to grab a tissue

Well, guys, it’s time to cry your heart out. You know those times you feel heartbroken or just in need of some love, well I’m bringing you some romantic movies that can cause your heart to melt. Crying is a good thing; we have to let our emotions out once in a while because holding everything isn’t always good for your health.

So, before you begin to watch these movies, there are some rules:

1. Don’t do anything else; only focus on the film.

2. Don’t forget to switch off the light; it always set the mood.

3. Open your heart

4. Most importantly grab some tissues, you’ll need it.

Here are our picks:


1. Irreplaceable you

Abbie is diagnosed with cancer, knowing she will soon go, she is determined to find a new love for her fiancé and soulmate Sam. This movie is a real tear-jerker, just imagining trying to find a new love for your partner just because you’ll soon go. That’s love at its peak.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.


2. The fault in our stars

Meet Hazel Grace, who has cancer and live in her sad world until she meets Augustus, who shows her life is worth living even if you don’t live long. I believe this movie has a message, and it’s a movie worth watching to learn that message and also cry. Promise me you will watch it “Okay“.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Disney+, HBO.


3. A walk to remember

He agreed not to fall in love with her, but why would he, he thought to himself, she was in a low class, had a weird sense of fashion, and so much more. Still love has a way of crawling in; this is Landon and Jamie’s love story.

Where to watch: Netflix, Disney+, Amazon.


4. Me before you

Louisa Clark just lost her job, and she’s left with only one work, that is taking care of Will Traynor, the hateful man who got paralyzed after an accident. This movie is an emotional roller coaster, so get ready to cry.

Where to watch: Netflix, Disney+, Amazon.


5. Five feet apart

Even five feet couldn’t keep them for loving. Teen romance is just so beautiful but not always the ending you want it to be. Meet Stella and Will, who lived their adventure in a hospital and lived it so happily.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.


6. Adrift

This is one movie that you wouldn’t see the end coming. Trapped in a horrible hurricane, Tami and Richard try to find a way to survive. With so much misfortune and fear, their love is the only thing keeping them going.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.


7. La La Land

Is your dream greater than the love you have? Sebastian and Mia are put to the test through their troubles in fulfilling their dreams which they both work so hard to achieve.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Hulu.


8. If I stay

In coma wondering, if the person you love will ever wake up. Adam is faced with this difficulty as his love is laying down fighting for her life. Will Mia ever wake up, find out.

Where to watch: Amazon, Hulu.


9. Up

Who said animations couldn’t be romantic? Carl still in pain of losing the love of his life, his wife, Ellie, was encouraged by a young boy, Russell to fulfil the promise he made to his wife.

Where to watch: Disney+, Amazon.


10. About time

Given the ability to time travel, what will you use it for? Well, Tim Lake used his extraordinary ability to chase his love, Mary, but he had some troubles along the way.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Hulu.

5 Instagram Comic Illustrators that will make your day

Hey Hon buns, so guess what it is Friday Funday. I dedicated every Friday to give a form of entertainment, something to keep you company either movies to watch, novels to read, or even comics. So don’t miss any Friday posts. Well, today is about comics and I really do think people should be reading them more, just to relieve stress or for laughs and so much more. I really do admire comic illustrators because it is amazing what they do and they are really talented. So I’m sharing some of the comics I read on Instagram and totally will recommend to anyone, hope you enjoy it. I will also love to hear the comics you read, just drop them at the comment sections.


  1. TAG COMICS / @tag comics

I love this comic so much, it is an African comic, so many amazing people work on it. It is so relatable, I find myself in the comic, it has humor. If you just need a good laugh just follow them and scroll down and begin to enjoy your time in it. So many stories to get read in this particular comic and when you check it out tell me your favourite character.


2. THE GOOD ADVICE CUPCAKE @thegoodadvicecupcake

Cutest cupcake ever! This is where to get only positive vibes! There is so much joy, happiness, kindness, it’s like a rainbow in this comic and I totally love it because it is not every time you will be happy or maybe you had a bad day or you just feel down about yourself. Well, I recommend you start following this comic because everything will just change. I really love the person or team behind this for spreading so much love daily and making people feel special about themselves. So what are you waiting for guys go check it out.


3. HUBMAN AND CHUBGIRL @hubman.chubgirl

I love these couples and also firstly want to congratulate them on their baby, Floobie. Hubman and chubgirl adventures is really cute, full of love and it is so amazing what they just do. The comic is a chilled and relaxing one filled with laughs and entertainment, hope you enjoy it.


4. THE POTATO COUPLE @thepotatocouple

Cuteness at its peak! If you are in need of a heart melting comic you are in the right place. This comic soften your heart and make you just want to fall in love, their adventures are the cuteness and i totally love them, hope you do too. Before i forget the graphics are so cute.

5. SAM @samtheartkid

This is a casual and cool comic for relaxation and entertainment. Sam’s adventures are practically his thoughts in drawngs and it is really student related. Go take a look and enjoy your time there and let me not forget i am a huge fan of his illustrations, he is really talented. Tell me what you think at the comments.

First apologises for the late post been busy with school. I really hope you guys like it and also if you have any other comic you could recommended and comment.

Virginity is still a trend

“They have forgotten their morals, the values

They hold their flower and with their hands

But crush it instead of holding it tight

Closing their ears to the wisdom of the old

They forget their home training

They forget their mother words

Your virginity should be secured”, they were told

But now they choose to follow the crowd

Corrupting their thoughts with the words of a friend

Corrupting their eyes with the nakedness of the screen

And opening their bodies for display.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20 (NLT)

Generations has fallen   

They destroy their bodies and tie their souls unknowingly

They forget the word of the Lord

And leave a mess in the temple where He dwells

They put Him off his throne in their heart

And crown pleasure their king

O future generation

Do not be deceived by the people

Do not let the world lie to you

Hear me out loud

Secure the bag

Hold your flower

Being a virgin doesn’t make you less a teen or an adult

I speak not only to the ladies

For it is presumed to the world to all the female

I also speak to the males

Wait till marriage

Virginity is still a trend”.

                                                                                                 ~sugarplumhoneybunny

I believe this issue is getting worst each day, people losing their virginity and they don’t see the value especially the case of the teenagers. I know you want to fulfill your desire but you have control over your flesh, don’t let your flesh control you. All you need is the Holy Spirit.

Well, there are those whose virginity has already been taken away either willingly, by force, or even some that are just lost and tired of failed love and chose to take this path, it’s okay it’s not over for you, stay tuned for my next post and find hope.

So I really recommend this video for anyone who needs to understand more or those who lost hope about all these things. This video is by one of my pastors , Pastor Michael Todd, a really great man. If you love this video just subscribe to their channel and watch the preachings because it really changes lives. Don’t forget to leave a comment about anything, I hoped this helped.

TILL FURTHER NOTICE

Hey, honeybuns, well I’m going on a break from the blog for some while. I got exams coming up and I really need to focus on that now, really sorry about that.

I also want to appreciate you guys, I received a lot of wonderful comments and you don’t know how happy that makes me. In the process of replying, I might have replied a few people twice because I wasn’t sure if have replied or not, and if I didn’t reply to you that was a mistake please notify me because ever comment matters to me.

So I realized I don’t really post my videos on my blog, so I am going to show you the videos related to every post have written and my inspirations.

Well, wish my luck in my exams and see you guys soon. Love you❤

So till then, love yourself, be the best version of yourself every day, and believe in yourself you can do anything you put your mind too. If you need someone to talk to you can contact me on any platform, just check my page for it. ❤❤❤

10 Tips on how to let go of someone you love

1. First thing, decide to let go
2. Cut contact. Remove whatever reminds you of him/her
3. Focus on yourself or other stuffs
4. Show your emotions. Cry if you have to, punch a pillow when you angry.
5. Start self-care. Treat yourself
6. Talk it out with whoever you feel comfortable to talk with
7. Know it’s never easy but gentle with yourself. Take all the time you need.
8. Make peace with what happened. Don’t go wondering what you did wrong or if you didn’t show enough love, just make peace.
9. Know your worth. Have value for yourself.
10. Take all the time you need, one day everything will be better.