DEAR MOTHERS,

Being a mother is an uncover job full of a thousand duties. If mothers were to be paid according to their work they would be millionaires by now, if you don’t believe let me show you.

1WORKPAY
2Chef₦98,000
3Housekeeper₦10,000
4Counsellor₦100,000
5Teacher₦50,000
6Chauffeur₦30,000
7Laundry₦20,000
8Health care provider₦60,000
9Finance manager₦150,000
10Event planner₦100,000
11Nurse₦80,000
12Babysitter₦60,000
13Police/watch guard₦50,000

These are just a few of the thousand jobs they do and about the prices, they were according to my research, but prices vary in different places. But as good as mothers work, I believe those prices are not worth the job they do every day and night.

So dear mothers, we promise we will try our best we will be everything you wanted for us and when you get old, and its time for us to spoil you we will give you the whole world.

For the times we might have fought and quarrelled about the little things, it’s the hormones really, we never mean to hurt you but we did, and for that we are sorry.

Again we are truly sorry for our teenage moment, I don’t know how you stay calm and still love us in those teenage moments, but you did.

A mother’s love is unconditional; sometimes, I never do understand it. I often look at my mother and wonder where those this love come from because mothers can do anything.

So our amazing superwomen, you show us daughters what strength and love mean everyday and show the sons examples of a wife, loving, strong, hardworking and so much more.

I could go on about mothers, but I end here today because I don’t believe in long articles. We love you mothers with everything.

To those deadbeat mothers your day is coming, just as I wrote for loving mothers, Ill also write for you don’t worry how can I forget you. We still love you.

NEW YEAR RESOLUTION

New year resolution is a regular we make to ourselves before the new year begins either to be a better person or to accomplish a goal or the other

I believe in new year resolution; I know it might sound cliché because it is a common term you hear at the beginning of the year or someone ask you about yours. But as cliché as it may sound, we all have new year resolution whether we don’t put it under the term ‘new year resolution’ or not.

Before a new year begin we all have something we want to accomplish or do better in the coming new year. Maybe you haven’t been putting effort in your work or studies, or you weren’t nice to people much in the previous year you decide to be better this year.

Now we have the resolution in our hearts, it’s important to write it down. Don’t let it just stay inside of you, write it down, think of the step you need to accomplish the goal.

So I’ll tell you about my new resolution, well first I want to grow my spiritual life by spending my morning with God, then I decided to be waking up early so I choose by 4, if you ask me I am still getting used to it because sometimes I wake up by 4 and just fall back but I’m getting there.

Another of my resolution to improve better in school so I’m reading for school or at least revising everyday except Saturday and Sundays. Also to engage more and gain my followers on my blog and also prepare ahead, so I plan to be online a lot to engage and also I plan to create my content for a week or month ahead. Also to be nicer in my bad periods, I get irritated easily and my thoughts at that moment just seem to come out so I,m trying to be nicer in my bad moods.

Well before I spend all my time on myself, those are the ones I’ll share today. An important thing about new year resolutions is sticking to it, once it’s June or it might even reach December before we realise that we had a goal.

To stick to the resolution you need to tell everyone close to you about it, they are there to remind you about it. Also set a reminder either your goal was to exercise every morning or read in the afternoon, set the time either on an alarm clock or your phone.

So this year decide to be among those that will accomplish their goals this year and by the time the year ends all you will do is smile about afar you pushed through and made it.

Sometimes we might need our friends to show us what we need to make as our resolution

DEAR FATHERS,


This message is to all the fathers out there, to all the head of the home.
It’s time we finally appreciate you as you deserve; a father responsibility is a task, we never see the process, but we see its outcome. When they head to work to provide for the family, the work done is never seen but only the money we see as proof.
You are examples to your daughters of who a man should be like; you treat your wife with love and compassion and groom your children in the right ways. Although the world praises the mothers mostly, we forget to give you that same praise.
I remember a day I sat down and wondered if I could count all my school fees and all the clothes, the food, and so much more that my father has provided he could have been a million, but he decided to spend that money on his children, now that’s a father. A father’s love for his family is unconditional.
Even emotional base we forget about you, like I always say men have feelings too. I get that fathers tend to work mostly all day and the children mostly go to their mothers when it comes to emotions but dear fathers even though we might not cry to you first or show you our emotions at times with all our hearts you are our heroes.
Believe it or not, we work hard in our studies or work because we want a better life to give you what you gave us.
As I said earlier, we daughters look to you of who a man should be, hardworking, kind, giving, loving to his wife and children, etc. We look for those qualities in a man because you have shown us that’s what a man should be.
How will I forget the sons, all they want is to be like you or even a better version. You’re their models. They learn the qualities and responsibilities of a man from you.
I think I’ll end my letters to the fathers soon, but all fathers reading this you might not hear it often, but we appreciate and love you.

If you are not a father and just read this, tell your father or husband what an incredible person he is and how much you love him.
Also, to those deadbeat fathers, I will try my best and hold my words, but I have a letter for you, so stay posted.

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?

2020 has been one heck of a year, a year we will look back to one day and laugh. Due to the pandemic, many things have happened both good and bad. I witnessed a lot of panics, the fear in people eyes either for themselves or their love ones, the pandemic was the biggest hit for the world but even with the pandemic what hurt me the most was the issues going on with countries like(Nigeria endsars, …) why add to the pain.

But do you know what beautiful people with pain, fear, and everything, we made it, we saw 2021. I want you to say to yourself and say “this year is going to be much better.”

Even with all that happened this year helped too, it gave us time for everything. We read a book, we did seld developed, we git to see who are real friends are, we spent time with family and so much more amazing things we did.

Let’s remember that 2020 grew us, made us better and stronger but I wouldn’t forget those that lost someone or thing last year and entered this new year with hurt or pain, well my dear honeybuns one day it will be okay, you hear me, everything will be okay.

Just stick with God and set goals for this year and with time, it will be alright.

So welcome to 2021 my honeybuns this year has many great things for us, now take a piece of paper or a book and reflect on last year and write down what you’re grateful for. Also, meet those people that you’re grateful for and tell them.

So let me tell you what I’m grateful for, well I’m grateful to God for keeping me and my family and friends, even for my mental health because it was a real battle last year. However, it still got better, and I’m also grateful for the time I had to start new things like my blog and self-development.

 So finally we in 2021 next stop 2022 but let’s make this 2021 a beautiful year. Don’t forget to share at the comment with what you’re grateful for can’t wait to read them.

5 UNIQUE CHRISTMAS GIFTS FOR HER

It’s Christmas season, and you still haven’t gotten your love a gift because you have no idea what, well I got you covered. These are five unique Christmas gifts to surprise her with:

1. COOK FOR HER

      Surprise her with your cooking, go ahead into the kitchen and make her favourite meal. Now don’t call anyone to do it for you if you don’t know how to prepare the dish go online for help and follow the recipe give or call a friend to tell you the steps to cook it. Just make it yourself that matters.


2. MOVIE NIGHT

     Ok, so lets set the place up, switch off the light, get some drinks and her favourite snacks and don’t forget the popcorn. What’s her best movie or what kind of movie does she like, get it and cuddle up together and watch it. Most importantly sleep before the movie night, giving her your time and love is everything.


3. A PLAYLIST

      Make a playlist for her, either from all the songs you two have memories with or just the type of songs or artist she loves and play it to surprise her.


4. A SCRAPBOOK

       Walk her through the journey where it all began with the both of you through pictures and videos. Take her through memory lane and laugh at the good old times.


5. SAY YOUR VOWS

       It is important to say those words in your heart, give her that speech, those feelings that come up every time you see her. Tell her how much you love her, express it and you could write it down to say it.

ENCOURAGING BIBLE VERSES

We all need encouragement one point or the other, we get tired or just a feeling of giving up. God is our greatest encouragement, and He encourages us through the Bible. So these are ten verses to believe in daily:

“Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.”


1 Timothy 4:12

 “So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.”


Deuteronomy 31:6

“For the Lord is your security.

    He will keep your foot from being caught in a trap.”


Proverbs 3:26

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart;

    do not depend on your own understanding.

Seek his will in all you do,

    and he will show you which path to take.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 

 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”


Philippians 4:6

“For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”


PHILIPPIANS 4:13

“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.

    Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.

I will strengthen you and help you.

    I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”


Isaiah 41:10

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling,

    beautiful in every way.”


 
Song of Solomon 4:7

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”


Jeremiah 29:11

“I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.”


John 15:9

THE HEALING PROCESS

In one of my previous post “The Rebound,” I said I’d write about how to get over your ex. Well, that’s a whole healing process, and there is something you need to know, it takes time. Your not magically going to forget the memories or stop feeling the pain in a week or a month and for some people it takes a long time like maybe a year or more.

It’s going to hurt when you see them, you will go through the pictures and memories with tears, people will keep asking you what went wrong but the pain may not allow you to say it because it might end in tears, but it’s good to feel the pain, cry out, punch your pillow, do whatever you think, its all part of the healing process.

So I realised I have written about this or similar in a previous post of mine, so I am not going to write today I’ll just put the post below and hopes it helps.


How to get over your ex

UNIQUE CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEAS FOR HIM

It’s Christmas time and a period we wonder what to get for the one we love either our boyfriend, husband, etc. Finding the right Christmas gift is usually hard, thinking of his personality, the cost, and so much more, don’t worry I got you covered. These are unique gift ideas you could get for him this Christmas:

1. A spa day

Men tend to be busy with work and hardly find the time to relax, so why not give them a spa day. Don’t be mistaken I didn’t say go to a spa I mean bring the spa to your home, be creative.

Now if you need help, follow these simple steps:

  • Make sure it is at evening/night time
  • Set the tone from the bedroom to the bathroom, buy some candles, put on some music,  get a fragrance or an air freshener to give a lovely scent. You could do anything that comes to your mind.
  • Set the bathtub ready, or just a shower could do.
  • Do manicure and pedicure; this is optional
  • Most importantly give him a good massage

  In the process, please don’t be too serious, have fun, play around, dance to the music together while you’re at it.


2. Go out

Now I don’t mean only dinner like I said earlier everyone has their personality. So if your man is the classy type then go out for dinner, if he is the athletic type, compete with him in whatever sport he plays to have fun, you could go to the stadium or field. If he is the geeky type, then play games with him and have a match to add to the fun you could go to the arcade.

“What if he isn’t the outdoor type?” Well, everything mentioned can also be done indoors.


3. Say your vows

Words mean so much that we think. Write down what you feel about him, pour out those words in paper and read it to him, and if you could do without writing, then say it. Most times, we forget to say those words due to a busy schedule, but you could finally tell them. Words go a long way.


4. A photo album

   From when it all started to now. Print out those photos; you could put them in an album or use a photo clips string light which fit the Christmas spirit and hang it anywhere. For a lower budget, do a slide show with background music.


5. Yourself

You read it right, give him yourself for Christmas. Be the genie for the day, devote your time, ask him what he needs and you’ll be there. Sacrifice, time and love say a lot.

THE REBOUND

Have you ever had a rebound before? Have you gotten into a relationship just for the sake of getting over your ex? Look at Jess story if it relates with yours.

Jess will you be my girlfriend he asked shyly awaiting an answer. Jess looked him in the eye wondering if she could say yes knowing the truth and, at the moment, she thought, and her words came out, “Paul, I can’t”.

Paul looking confused and asked why then Jess began to speak, “it’s because I know you ain’t over her, I don’t want to be dating you knowing you still think of her and you will begin to compare both of us.

You will keep telling yourself you love me more which isn’t true and when we mistakenly bump to her, you were trying to make her feel jealous because you have feelings for her.  

I see the way you look at her Paul, that’s not a look when you’re over someone, and imagine you guys reconcile wouldn’t you want to get back with her. If I’m lying correct me, tell me it’s not true because I see the signs every time and I try to tell myself otherwise, Paul looked at her but couldn’t say a word.

Tears began running down her face because she wished deep down that she wrong, but he just looked at her without denying a single thing. So, she continued and said “sincerely I don’t want to be your rebound or your second choice when you get over her, and you’re sure about us then I’ll be your girlfriend.

“But Jess, I love…” Paul said in a whisper, but Jess cut him off before he could complete his words. “I’m not sure you even believe those words yourself”, and she walked away. Paul stood there because every word she said was true and he couldn’t chase her because she was right nothing he said could change things.


Who are you in this story? Are you Jess who knows she isn’t the one in the heart of someone she loves or are you Paul who still loves his ex but want to be in a relationship with someone that he is not sure he loves?

If you’re Jess in this story, be as bold as she was and ask, even though she knew it would hurt, she still did it and walked away, follow her example. But if you’re Paul well I have a word or two for you, instead of jumping into another relationship heal, try to get over your ex.

A rebound hardly works and even if it does it take time for you to love the person you’re with, and that’s not fair to either you or the person. Heal, take all the time you need, don’t try to get back at your ex or go into another relationship to feel loved. It’s very unhealthy, so make the right decision and leave, yes it might hurt but its better than pretending to love them.

Once you are out of it, do the next step “getting over your ex”, hard but I know you can do it. Now stay posted because that is what is next and I’ll help you through it.