Gandhi once said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

I’m sure when hearing this we all think big, I want to be the first doctor to do this, I want to be an entrepreneur, start a non-governmental organization or be the first to accomplish this. I wouldn’t lie those things are amazing but before we jump off to be all that let’s take a step and think of our we can be the change in the world by focusing on our little bad habits.

Let’s look at how we can change our little bad habits into good ones. Let’s be the change by actually changing the little things first.

I remember something I once heard “If you think it’s only the government in Nigeria that is corrupt then you are wrong, we the citizens are also corrupt.”

After hearing that statement, I went into deep thoughts and honestly it was true, I even found out I was among those corrupt people through my little bad habits.

Crazy enough I love this country, people will ask me why and I see all sorts of faces but I truly believe in a change for this country and I believe that change will be through our youths, through our habits, through the way we live.

In my view, I will replace the word “corrupt” with “bad habits”

Quote by Mahatma Gandhi

I will give a few examples:

1. CONNECTIONS: The first thing is the famous word “CONNECTION,” connection isn’t a bad thing but when used for the wrong reasons then it’s wrong. We all have a friend that knows someone or meets someone that knows maybe someone important and that is fine. Making connections will help a lot in life but if your only intention for connections is to cut corners then you have a bad habit.

2. SELFISHNESS: A selfish act is one that arises from a concern for one’s own welfare or advantage at the expense of others. It starts with the government because if a person on sit or in power only cares for his well-being then he or she is selfish, they need a heart for their citizens this is why some countries are not growing because many have a one’s own advantage heart.

Even as citizens we are to look out for each other, care for and help one another. For the county to grow we need to each grow which can not be done when you only look out for your own interest.

3. BRIBERY: It refers to the offering, donating, requesting, or receiving of any item of value in order to sway the behaviour of someone with a public or legal responsibility.

Charity!!! Put your money to good you for goodness sake, and do some good for the society or the people around you. Do not make money a shortcut for everything because you have it.

4. NEPOTISM: In other words, this is called favouritism. This is favouring family or friends, especially by providing them jobs, is a common behaviour among those with authority or influence.

According to a 2019 survey, almost half of those who were hired in the Nigerian public sector did so through nepotism, bribery, or both. Twenty percent of male respondents and twenty-four percent of female respondents admitted to paying a bribe in exchange for a public-sector job. Furthermore, roughly 16 percent of both male and female respondents got their position as public officials with the help of friends or relatives, respectively (Statista, 2022).

5. ABSTENTION: We all want a better country but fail to choose the right government. Abstention is the absence of a vote for or against someone or something. Without voting

I call all these little bad habits, sometimes we are not aware that we have them but when viewed and thought about closely we will see if we could just stop them then we can be the change we want to see in our world.

So dear viewers,

Shall we take on our lens and discuss our little bad habits, those things we do but don’t seem like a big issue but when changed can make a huge difference.


Like every teacher will start by first defining the term habits?

Habits are the little things we do frequently that become a part of our daily. It is a pattern of behaviour that is done on a regular basis and usually happens unconsciously.

According to the American Journal of Psychology, habit can be defined as a more or less fixed way of thinking, willing, or feeling acquired through previous repetition of a mental experience.”

Your change doesn’t have to be huge; the little habits make a big difference in this case a big change

So what are those little habits that you could change start with the little habits and correct the bad ones as well?

Here are some familiar little bad habits (LBH)

Bad habits
  1. CUTTING QUEUES: This habit is one that irritates me, instead of standing like everyone else just because you have connections or because you are a big person in society doesn’t give you the right to cut the queue. No one is above the law or norms of the society and orderliness is not a crime or a big deal.

Countries grow and walk-in orderliness, why should ours be different. Have you seen the difference between an international airport when you arrive and Nigeria’s airport when you arrive because the difference is so clear and it is what I call “orderliness”?

So when next you see a queue, stay behind the last person you see, this little habit can create a better tomorrow.

  1. NOSE PICKING: NEVER SHOULD YOU EVER, PLEASE! This habit is both irritable to see but also indecent as an individual. I understand the nose itches a lot but doesn’t call for such behaviour. You can excuse yourself to the restroom or carry a handkerchief along with you to cover yourself or use instead of your hands.
  1. NAIL-BITING: DROP YOUR HANDS! Stop chewing your hands because that is what it looks like, I know it is not easy to stop something when it is already a habit but that doesn’t mean it is impossible. You don’t need to keep your nails, you can carry a mini manicure set to help you with your nails instead of using your teeth.
  1. SMOKING: SMOKERS ARE LIABLE TO DIE YOUNG! Even the ads you see mention it, so why do it, why reduce your length of life you ain’t no cat, you do not have nine lives.
  1. EXCESSIVE DRINKING: SOMEONE ONCE SAID, “DRINKING ISN’T THE PROBLEM, EXCESSIVENESS IS!” Being modest when drinking is good for both your health and well-being, do not allow yourself to drink pass your limit.
  1. OVERTHINKING: AS MUCH AS THINKING IS GOOD, OVERTHINKING ISN’T! Thinking is required of every human being but the moment you start to worry and stress yourself about things you can not control then it is bad. Do not over analyse everything.
  1. FARTING: PLEASE STOP, LET’S BREATHE IN AND OUT GOOD AIR! I have nothing much to say here because we just shouldn’t be doing this publicly. Excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

I could list a ton of little bad habits but that isn’t the purpose of my writing, I want us to reflect and think of what are those things we do




  1. HAVE AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER: An accountability partner is someone who checks on some areas of your life that needs control or help. It is good to have someone to monitor and maintain your habits by allowing them know your bad habits and the good habits you want to replace them with.

Your accountability partner will help you discipline yourself and build better behaviour. For example, if you have a shopping habit (shopaholic) and need help to control the way you spend your accountability partner will be in charge of tracking your expense, or checking if the things you bought are needed and if not return them.

Everyone needs an accountability partner but no matter what make sure your partner is someone you trust or close to which will be better to share personal matters or habits. Do not give this responsibility that will use this bad habit against your or will tell someone about your issue or make your situation worst, take your time to find the right person for the job.



Dear viewers,

It is of great delight to introduce you to my rebranded blog. It has been two weeks of work and I will be honest with you that redesigning a website is not easy. I had constant struggles and at one point I was stuck on something that didn’t let me move forward and it hit me, “why stay stuck in one position instead of moving forward.”

Through the lens is a world-changing and lifestyle blog that focuses on our personal envisioned goal called “Towards a better mindset” (mindset growth).

It was started to build and change the perspective and mindset, allowing people to see a clear vision and also beyond their vision for a change of thinking to create a better tomorrow.

In making the world a better place, we believe the mind is our first target and our blog focus on changing one’s perspective in order to grow the mind.

The mind is called the greatest asset of an individual and once the mindset is changed or improved, new habits and a change of living begins.

During this week I learned a lot of lessons:

These are blogging tips that will help you overcome your fear and begin your journey as the successful blogger and amazing content creator that you are.


I always thought there will be a perfect time, maybe I should keep brushing my skills or wait till I am done with school maybe by that time everything will be perfect. Honestly, it’s not true those are voices trying to stop you from doing something amazing. You will grow in the process so don’t worry about if you are good enough or not. START NOW!!! Do something about the skills and talents given to you, don’t be like the third servant who tug up his talent waiting for his master and didn’t gain anything like the rest.

Like Nike will say “JUST DO IT.” That’s why I am so in love with Nike’s campaign and advertisement because it pushes you.

Starting is scary and one can count more reasons not to start than to start but let me tell you something, once you do start, you will be proud of yourself, and you will grow.


Someone will say “I need a lot of money to start,” I thought like that too I had to pay for my blog and it will be much better and honestly didn’t have the funds, so I will have to wait to save and let me tell you, it would have taken months. If you have the funds and that is amazing you can start but if you’re a student like me or need months to get the pay you deserve to get your blog upgraded or business started then STOP, SIT and THINK of the most creative way you can start what every idea you have in mind.

Money should not stop you from starting. God has given us all creative minds, think of another way around whatever you want to start. Don’t get me wrong I didn’t say you wouldn’t need money, I mean you should start creatively but still be saving for the next step.


I have been around different kinds of people, when I first mentioned to some people about starting a blog the replies were beyond discouraging. At one point I wanted to back down because I thought I wasn’t good enough but I had to be my own cheerleader.

We all know the kind of friends we have, some are critics in nature and some are supporters, both categories are good because the critics help crosscheck your work and make you better. However, you will need the supporters in your journey.

Negative energy and people bring down the spirit and whatever motivation you would have given yourself to start. Starting isn’t easy but you can do it.

Keynote: believe in yourself first


Whether you want to start a business, be a content creator, or work in a company planning needs to come into place. The first things you need to plan and write down are your vision, mission, goals, values, strategies, tactics and many others. You need to first plan the foundation of what you want to do in order to know where you’re going.

Get a to-do list note, plan your day ahead, and before you go to sleep write down what you plan to do the next day because I will tell you from experience, that there are distractions everywhere and sometimes you just forget which leads me to my next point.


It might seem so little but I will tell you for a fact your brain can’t keep that information all the time. Every content creator or writer are aware of those moments an idea comes to mind and sometimes if not jotted down you will forget that amazing idea in your head.

So to make it easy buy a little note, you could even use your device to jot down, just don’t let that idea slip away.

Make them your sidekick.


“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” (John 8:7 NLT)

I remember sitting quietly in church one day, and I saw a lady just like me sitting down, but she wore a short skirt, her top had holes, and she didn’t wear a bra everything revealed.

 As I observed her, I saw a woman approach her and telling her to leave and wear something better that she was in the presence of the Lord.

The woman began to shout, the congregation turned and wondered what was going on. Before I knew it, I heard whispers; I heard things like “why will she come here like that”, “the woman is doing the right thing, look at her” I could go on

I saw the lady leave the church that day and then I began to wonder, what if she was in pain and the only place she thought of going was the church, or what if that day she was ready to give her life to Christ and stop the past, or what if she was in danger and the church was her hiding place.

One thing that came to my mind that day as she walked out of the church was that “a soul was lost.”

I don’t know who need to hear this, but the unsaved live matter

Mattew 7:1 (NLT) “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged.”

Don’t judge; instead love. In this case, if the woman walked up to the girl and talked to her like a mother, hugged her, things might be better. The woman could have checked on her daily and you never know God can turn her heart around and she will change.

“SHOW LOVE!” Do not lose a soul, don’t think you are too righteous then act irritated by those that don’t have knowledge on the word of God’

Don’t keep only godly people and care only for those that believe in Christ. If you see someone that doesn’t know Christ, don’t go and quote scriptures and tell them they will go to hell, stop it and start with love. Christ started with that, and He loved us (John3:16)

I know they said the people you have around you affect or influence you, but that doesn’t mean you will not keep those unsaved close. So don’t let them change you; influence them with the way you live and you can still have those good friends around to affect you and keep you in check.


35 For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. 36 I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me.’

37 “Then these righteous ones will reply, ‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing? 39 When did we ever see you sick or in prison and visit you?’

40 “And the King will say, ‘I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters,[a] you were doing it to me!’

That girl was a stranger, but the woman didn’t invite her home (the church)

Remember the lost sheep out there, some may not know much, some are looking for someone to show them the way. That’s one of your duties as Christians to bring them to Christ, show them the same love Christ showed us when He died for us.

Read this story and remember this statement “WHAT WILL JESUS DO?”


Hey beautiful ladies, I am here to talk about our survival kit,

What is a lady survival kit? There are essential equipment that a lady needs in their purse to survive in an emergency.

There are lifesavers and we often tend not to have them in our purse which I suggest a change from now on. So this are the first five kit:

1. PAD

The first necessity. Even though you know when your period might start next, you always need to prepare and put two pairs in your purse. I use the “FLO” app and it’s a period tracker, ovulation calendar and pregnancy app and it helps a lot, but even with the app I carry the pairs in my purse.

Now you wonder why two, why not one? Well, you got to be there for your fellow ladies in times of needs.

So, after you use the restroom or go from one place to another or you were rushing somewhere and forgot to spray at home, you apply it on your body. Trust me; it turns head.


So, I am a total perfume lover and I can’t do without. Every lady needs to add this up, and now I don’t mean a huge bottle, you can get those little oil perfume, there are portable and last long.


A friend once told me I don’t apply enough lip gloss, that if I use it well, I’ll get men to stare at my lips making them want it. Lol, she reads a lot of novels, but I tested the theory and she was right.

Now that being aside, every lady needs to revamp and hydrate their lips. Licking your lips isn’t feminine nor the right thing to do. Keep your lips hydrated.


Do you know if you stay hours without talking and open your mouth, it stinks a little? Yh, the mint gum totally helps in that case or after a long day at the desk and you about to have a meeting, the mint got you covered. Another amazing silly scenario is when you want to talk to your crush, boyfriend/girlfriend, or whoever, you have to make every breath count when you’re with them literally.


Yes, ladies in one stage or another we needed this to save us from either a loose button or a small rip in the dress whatever. Having a safety pin has been a huge lifesaver and I will advise we have two or three in our purse/bag.


I want to tell you the tale of what happened to my Valentine, his bravery has to be told, and the Emperor’s wickedness needs to be known, but I think he is doing a good job showing it already.

Before I speak of my husband’s death, I would want to share with you our letters we write to each other everyday. He was no monster; his only fault was loving me.

Now this was among the first letters of our trouble days when we learnt of the rule of Emperor Claudia

My dear Emily, Emperor Claudia has enforced a law that restricts me from being with you, he claims we young men need no woman and has banned marriage. He thinks a wife would distract us during our service but my love he doesn’t know my strength is from the thought of you everyday. I now have to serve as a soldier, but before I leave, I know a man who performs secret ceremonies and I want to know you are mine forever.


My love valentine, I don’t think it’s safe we go on seeing each other. I can’t risk the fact of losing you, Emperor Claudius is a wicked man, and he will have no mercy on you if you get caught for disobeying him. I am not worth this; I can’t watch you die.


Your heart is so kind-hearted and sweet, that is why I love you more each passing day. You don’t need to worry about my death because it wouldn’t happen, I’ll be by your side till we get old. We wouldn’t get caught because we send letters secretly each day and meet at the hours when everyone sleeps. Your only worry should be what to wear for the ceremony.


Days passed and it was a day before the ceremony, just like always my Valentine would have written me a letter by now and left it under a plank in a location I best keep a secret, but I haven’t heard from him.

Was he too scared to marry me, maybe he was caught on the way, the thoughts killed me.

I went back to the location to check again, on my way I was dragged by a hand to a dark corner and I saw him, my Valentine. He told me he had to see me before the ceremony. He took the risk to see me during the day just to encourage me everything would be fine.

As long as I was concerned, no man was as brave as my Valentine. We didn’t meet till the day of the ceremony, but we never forgot to send letters. Later at night, we did our usual ritual.

My dear Emily, tomorrow you will finally be mine forever and I will be the luckiest man in the town. If not for the rules I would have shouted your name out loud and made it known to everyone in town that you are mine. Oh, how I can’t wait to call you my wife. I know how much you wanted the ceremony in the church, so I found a way to make it possible. At 11 pm, meet me at the St. Michael catholic church in the basement, the priest will be there.


Oh, my courageous love, I can’t wait to call you mine too. I will wear a simple white dress, it is still sad I can’t wear a wedding dress, but it doesn’t matter when the man I am getting married to is you.


At 11 pm I got dressed and wore a coat to cover my dress and avoid suspicion. I went down the basement of the chapel and saw my Valentine, as dashing as ever. The priest was also there, so we had no time to waste and hurried to finish the ceremony to have time to ourselves before the sunrises.

I will cut the story short because it’s a brief tale. We planned to leave that forsaken town a week after if only we knew what will happen next we would have gone immediately we said: “I do”.

Five days after the ceremony, my husband was arrested, how I found out wasn’t pleasing. I went in search of food and saw people gathered around, I asked what was happening, and a man told me “the priest that marries lovers secretly has been caught”.

I was sad because he married my Valentine and me. I went forward to say my last thank you, only to see my Valentine on the stocks awaiting his execution.

I began to cry and knelt before him and asked what happened, he told me that the priest that wedded us is also named “Valentine“. I wasn’t shocked because Valentine was a common name around here that’s why I always say “my valentine” but even at that what happened, why the mix-up.

He told me someone saw him go into chapel one night, which I knew was the day we wedded and later reported to the Emperor. I was angry, and the tear kept flowing then I asked him “Why would some do this, why didn’t he say he wasn’t the one,” my thoughts kept racing.

You wouldn’t believe what my husband told me. He said he was protecting the priest and also me.

If he said he wasn’t the Valentine, they would still be in search of the priest and lovers wouldn’t marry like we did and he also has to say why he was there at night and knowing my Valentine he wouldn’t lie because he was a man of principle and if he can’t lie that means death for both him and me.

How can a man be so loving even to death?

He begged me to leave before the Emperor sees me with him, but I refused to go, I wanted to die with him. Then he started crying, and that’s when I broke, my Valentine was crying, he said the only reason he can face this is knowing I’m still alive that I should please go and I promised to do so.

I didn’t know what to say, I couldn’t even kiss him goodbye because that can cause my death. So all I said was “goodbye my valentine, I will love you forever,” then I wailed my way back home.

My Valentine was executed that day, and I was beyond broken because I lost my love.

Do you want to know what hurt me the most? It’s that the priest was later caught some months later because of some people. Why do they detest love?

When I heard the news, it felt like my husband’s death was for nothing, I cried the more because my Valentine was the real hero to the story, he died for the priest, the soon to be wedded couple, and especially me but no one knew his story, but I’m glad you do now.

Do me a favour, promise me you will tell my husband’s story to others, don’t let his death be a waste because he was the real hero.


February 14th, valentine day, a day full of love, giggles and loads of gift. I’m sure you are prepared for the day already, I’m talking to both the couples and the singles, yes single I’m sure you have planned how to enjoy your day already.

But I’m not here to discuss the lovey-dovey day; I’m here to talk about the remaining 364 days of the year when it isn’t valentine.

It’s a usual tradition on that day to take your partner out, or give a gift, or show any form of love, but my question if not February 14th do you still show this love. Do you say I love you, do you get a surprise or take them out.

If you’re a YES well I’m so proud of you guys and hope it isn’t one-sided, but if your case is a NO and the only day you remember to show love is on special days, then we need to talk.


Okay so I’m not going to condemn you just because you didn’t do those things, but I want to say it is important, not only is it a beautiful thing it also helps the relationship grow.

It doesn’t always have to be a gift don’t kill yourself, you could write an epistle, make dinner, do something sweet once in a while, don’t let it only be valentine or birthdays or anniversaries.

Do you want to know a fantastic thing, because of the small gestures once in a while during those valentines you don’t have to throw something massive all the time because it is a normal thing in the relationship, you can decide to stay home and relax together.

This isn’t going to be a long talk, I’m not going to tell you how to express love, but I hope you put this in thoughts.


I woke up as early as 5am ready to burn some calories, I put on my best canvas and my black sportswear, getting ready to jog through the day, nothing can stop me, so I thought as I looked at the empty street. I packed my hair in a ponytail to avoid any disturbance, then again I looked at the road, and it was looking longer than ever, “when did it get far, can I do this, maybe just two rounds back and forth, or maybe I should start exercising tomorrow” several thoughts of doubt kept running through my head but all of a sudden I remembered the remedy.

I took out my phone from my armband. I searched for an article I bookmarked to read whenever I feel like giving up when exercising, and I read through the quotes. Suddenly I felt like exercising, all the reasons I wanted to do it kept coming, and I was determined.

“Oh I forgot one last thing,” as I thought to myself, I went to the playlist titled “workout” and played it, and I smiled because I was ready to take on anything.

Doubt is a normal thing that comes when you want to work out, you will feel like quitting either at the beginning or during the workout. But no matter what don’t, here are some workout motivation to help you out but first I’ll start with tips


1. When it is your workout time, wear your sportswear immediately even though you don’t want to start now. It helps remind you of what you want to do and not to procrastinate.

2. Read the quotes

3. Have a playlist for your workout, either songs or motivational speech by people.

Now let’s get to the quotes.

1. Once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit.

Vince Lombardi Jr

2. You have to think it before you can do it. The mind is what makes it all possible.

Kai Greene

3. A year from now you may wish you had started today.

Karen Lamb

4. When you feel like stopping…think about why you started.


5. Remember this: Your body is your slave.  It works for you.


6. Don’t give up on your dreams, or your dreams will give up on you.

john wooden

7. I hate every minute of training. But I said, don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.

Muhammad ali

8. Most people fail, not because of lack of desire, but, because of lack of commitment.

vince lombardi

 9. A champion is someone who gets up when they can’t.

jack dempsey

10. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.

ralph waldo emerson


Starting your day right is an important thing to do. How you start your mornings will show how your day will go, so I’ll share with you seven habits to cultivate to have a fantastic day.

1. Wake up early

I know this isn’t always easy, especially when you’re tired, and you don’t feel like standing up. Well I believe we all need the habit of waking up early, it allows you to have a lot of time to do all your duties in a day, and it just keeps you on track.

 To do this keep your alarm far from you maybe on your table so you wouldn’t be able to snooze it, in that way you can walk there to off it and you will be fully awake by then. S

2. Start with a positive vibe

Pray, read your bible, listen to a podcast or something motivational, or even listen to a song, it helps kick start your day. After doing something positive or even just reading a quote, it gives that energy that the day will be so good.

3. Drink water

As simple as that might sound, it is also vital we do it. Keep your body hydrated.

4. Make your bed

Yes, do it. When you make your bed, you wouldn’t want to get back on it because of how much effort you use to make it right.

5. Exercise

I know you never feel like it but exercising in the morning helps a lot. Your physical health matter, stay in shape.

6. Total body care

I would have said skincare, but I realised it is not only your skin you need to take care of. You need to take care of everything, from your hair, teeth, skin, feet, etc. Just make sure you’re clean and healthy and that you look good for you.

7. Make your to-do list

Plan your day out, write it down and follow the schedule, you will find out that when you have a to-do list, you will finish up all your duties or plans you have.


Being a mother is an uncover job full of a thousand duties. If mothers were to be paid according to their work they would be millionaires by now, if you don’t believe let me show you.

8Health care provider₦60,000
9Finance manager₦150,000
10Event planner₦100,000
13Police/watch guard₦50,000

These are just a few of the thousand jobs they do and about the prices, they were according to my research, but prices vary in different places. But as good as mothers work, I believe those prices are not worth the job they do every day and night.

So dear mothers, we promise we will try our best we will be everything you wanted for us and when you get old, and its time for us to spoil you we will give you the whole world.

For the times we might have fought and quarrelled about the little things, it’s the hormones really, we never mean to hurt you but we did, and for that we are sorry.

Again we are truly sorry for our teenage moment, I don’t know how you stay calm and still love us in those teenage moments, but you did.

A mother’s love is unconditional; sometimes, I never do understand it. I often look at my mother and wonder where those this love come from because mothers can do anything.

So our amazing superwomen, you show us daughters what strength and love mean everyday and show the sons examples of a wife, loving, strong, hardworking and so much more.

I could go on about mothers, but I end here today because I don’t believe in long articles. We love you mothers with everything.

To those deadbeat mothers your day is coming, just as I wrote for loving mothers, Ill also write for you don’t worry how can I forget you. We still love you.


New year resolution is a regular we make to ourselves before the new year begins either to be a better person or to accomplish a goal or the other

I believe in new year resolution; I know it might sound cliché because it is a common term you hear at the beginning of the year or someone ask you about yours. But as cliché as it may sound, we all have new year resolution whether we don’t put it under the term ‘new year resolution’ or not.

Before a new year begin we all have something we want to accomplish or do better in the coming new year. Maybe you haven’t been putting effort in your work or studies, or you weren’t nice to people much in the previous year you decide to be better this year.

Now we have the resolution in our hearts, it’s important to write it down. Don’t let it just stay inside of you, write it down, think of the step you need to accomplish the goal.

So I’ll tell you about my new resolution, well first I want to grow my spiritual life by spending my morning with God, then I decided to be waking up early so I choose by 4, if you ask me I am still getting used to it because sometimes I wake up by 4 and just fall back but I’m getting there.

Another of my resolution to improve better in school so I’m reading for school or at least revising everyday except Saturday and Sundays. Also to engage more and gain my followers on my blog and also prepare ahead, so I plan to be online a lot to engage and also I plan to create my content for a week or month ahead. Also to be nicer in my bad periods, I get irritated easily and my thoughts at that moment just seem to come out so I,m trying to be nicer in my bad moods.

Well before I spend all my time on myself, those are the ones I’ll share today. An important thing about new year resolutions is sticking to it, once it’s June or it might even reach December before we realise that we had a goal.

To stick to the resolution you need to tell everyone close to you about it, they are there to remind you about it. Also set a reminder either your goal was to exercise every morning or read in the afternoon, set the time either on an alarm clock or your phone.

So this year decide to be among those that will accomplish their goals this year and by the time the year ends all you will do is smile about afar you pushed through and made it.

Sometimes we might need our friends to show us what we need to make as our resolution


This message is to all the fathers out there, to all the head of the home.
It’s time we finally appreciate you as you deserve; a father responsibility is a task, we never see the process, but we see its outcome. When they head to work to provide for the family, the work done is never seen but only the money we see as proof.
You are examples to your daughters of who a man should be like; you treat your wife with love and compassion and groom your children in the right ways. Although the world praises the mothers mostly, we forget to give you that same praise.
I remember a day I sat down and wondered if I could count all my school fees and all the clothes, the food, and so much more that my father has provided he could have been a million, but he decided to spend that money on his children, now that’s a father. A father’s love for his family is unconditional.
Even emotional base we forget about you, like I always say men have feelings too. I get that fathers tend to work mostly all day and the children mostly go to their mothers when it comes to emotions but dear fathers even though we might not cry to you first or show you our emotions at times with all our hearts you are our heroes.
Believe it or not, we work hard in our studies or work because we want a better life to give you what you gave us.
As I said earlier, we daughters look to you of who a man should be, hardworking, kind, giving, loving to his wife and children, etc. We look for those qualities in a man because you have shown us that’s what a man should be.
How will I forget the sons, all they want is to be like you or even a better version. You’re their models. They learn the qualities and responsibilities of a man from you.
I think I’ll end my letters to the fathers soon, but all fathers reading this you might not hear it often, but we appreciate and love you.

If you are not a father and just read this, tell your father or husband what an incredible person he is and how much you love him.
Also, to those deadbeat fathers, I will try my best and hold my words, but I have a letter for you, so stay posted.


2020 has been one heck of a year, a year we will look back to one day and laugh. Due to the pandemic, many things have happened both good and bad. I witnessed a lot of panics, the fear in people eyes either for themselves or their love ones, the pandemic was the biggest hit for the world but even with the pandemic what hurt me the most was the issues going on with countries like(Nigeria endsars, …) why add to the pain.

But do you know what beautiful people with pain, fear, and everything, we made it, we saw 2021. I want you to say to yourself and say “this year is going to be much better.”

Even with all that happened this year helped too, it gave us time for everything. We read a book, we did seld developed, we git to see who are real friends are, we spent time with family and so much more amazing things we did.

Let’s remember that 2020 grew us, made us better and stronger but I wouldn’t forget those that lost someone or thing last year and entered this new year with hurt or pain, well my dear honeybuns one day it will be okay, you hear me, everything will be okay.

Just stick with God and set goals for this year and with time, it will be alright.

So welcome to 2021 my honeybuns this year has many great things for us, now take a piece of paper or a book and reflect on last year and write down what you’re grateful for. Also, meet those people that you’re grateful for and tell them.

So let me tell you what I’m grateful for, well I’m grateful to God for keeping me and my family and friends, even for my mental health because it was a real battle last year. However, it still got better, and I’m also grateful for the time I had to start new things like my blog and self-development.

 So finally we in 2021 next stop 2022 but let’s make this 2021 a beautiful year. Don’t forget to share at the comment with what you’re grateful for can’t wait to read them.


It’s Christmas season, and you still haven’t gotten your love a gift because you have no idea what, well I got you covered. These are five unique Christmas gifts to surprise her with:


      Surprise her with your cooking, go ahead into the kitchen and make her favourite meal. Now don’t call anyone to do it for you if you don’t know how to prepare the dish go online for help and follow the recipe give or call a friend to tell you the steps to cook it. Just make it yourself that matters.


     Ok, so lets set the place up, switch off the light, get some drinks and her favourite snacks and don’t forget the popcorn. What’s her best movie or what kind of movie does she like, get it and cuddle up together and watch it. Most importantly sleep before the movie night, giving her your time and love is everything.


      Make a playlist for her, either from all the songs you two have memories with or just the type of songs or artist she loves and play it to surprise her.


       Walk her through the journey where it all began with the both of you through pictures and videos. Take her through memory lane and laugh at the good old times.


       It is important to say those words in your heart, give her that speech, those feelings that come up every time you see her. Tell her how much you love her, express it and you could write it down to say it.


We all need encouragement one point or the other, we get tired or just a feeling of giving up. God is our greatest encouragement, and He encourages us through the Bible. So these are ten verses to believe in daily:

“Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.”

1 Timothy 4:12

 “So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.”

Deuteronomy 31:6

“For the Lord is your security.

    He will keep your foot from being caught in a trap.”

Proverbs 3:26

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart;

    do not depend on your own understanding.

Seek his will in all you do,

    and he will show you which path to take.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 

 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 4:6

“For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”


“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.

    Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.

I will strengthen you and help you.

    I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”

Isaiah 41:10

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling,

    beautiful in every way.”

Song of Solomon 4:7

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

Jeremiah 29:11

“I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.”

John 15:9


In one of my previous post “The Rebound,” I said I’d write about how to get over your ex. Well, that’s a whole healing process, and there is something you need to know, it takes time. Your not magically going to forget the memories or stop feeling the pain in a week or a month and for some people it takes a long time like maybe a year or more.

It’s going to hurt when you see them, you will go through the pictures and memories with tears, people will keep asking you what went wrong but the pain may not allow you to say it because it might end in tears, but it’s good to feel the pain, cry out, punch your pillow, do whatever you think, its all part of the healing process.

So I realised I have written about this or similar in a previous post of mine, so I am not going to write today I’ll just put the post below and hopes it helps.

How to get over your ex


It’s Christmas time and a period we wonder what to get for the one we love either our boyfriend, husband, etc. Finding the right Christmas gift is usually hard, thinking of his personality, the cost, and so much more, don’t worry I got you covered. These are unique gift ideas you could get for him this Christmas:

1. A spa day

Men tend to be busy with work and hardly find the time to relax, so why not give them a spa day. Don’t be mistaken I didn’t say go to a spa I mean bring the spa to your home, be creative.

Now if you need help, follow these simple steps:

  • Make sure it is at evening/night time
  • Set the tone from the bedroom to the bathroom, buy some candles, put on some music,  get a fragrance or an air freshener to give a lovely scent. You could do anything that comes to your mind.
  • Set the bathtub ready, or just a shower could do.
  • Do manicure and pedicure; this is optional
  • Most importantly give him a good massage

  In the process, please don’t be too serious, have fun, play around, dance to the music together while you’re at it.

2. Go out

Now I don’t mean only dinner like I said earlier everyone has their personality. So if your man is the classy type then go out for dinner, if he is the athletic type, compete with him in whatever sport he plays to have fun, you could go to the stadium or field. If he is the geeky type, then play games with him and have a match to add to the fun you could go to the arcade.

“What if he isn’t the outdoor type?” Well, everything mentioned can also be done indoors.

3. Say your vows

Words mean so much that we think. Write down what you feel about him, pour out those words in paper and read it to him, and if you could do without writing, then say it. Most times, we forget to say those words due to a busy schedule, but you could finally tell them. Words go a long way.

4. A photo album

   From when it all started to now. Print out those photos; you could put them in an album or use a photo clips string light which fit the Christmas spirit and hang it anywhere. For a lower budget, do a slide show with background music.

5. Yourself

You read it right, give him yourself for Christmas. Be the genie for the day, devote your time, ask him what he needs and you’ll be there. Sacrifice, time and love say a lot.


Have you ever had a rebound before? Have you gotten into a relationship just for the sake of getting over your ex? Look at Jess story if it relates with yours.

Jess will you be my girlfriend he asked shyly awaiting an answer. Jess looked him in the eye wondering if she could say yes knowing the truth and, at the moment, she thought, and her words came out, “Paul, I can’t”.

Paul looking confused and asked why then Jess began to speak, “it’s because I know you ain’t over her, I don’t want to be dating you knowing you still think of her and you will begin to compare both of us.

You will keep telling yourself you love me more which isn’t true and when we mistakenly bump to her, you were trying to make her feel jealous because you have feelings for her.  

I see the way you look at her Paul, that’s not a look when you’re over someone, and imagine you guys reconcile wouldn’t you want to get back with her. If I’m lying correct me, tell me it’s not true because I see the signs every time and I try to tell myself otherwise, Paul looked at her but couldn’t say a word.

Tears began running down her face because she wished deep down that she wrong, but he just looked at her without denying a single thing. So, she continued and said “sincerely I don’t want to be your rebound or your second choice when you get over her, and you’re sure about us then I’ll be your girlfriend.

“But Jess, I love…” Paul said in a whisper, but Jess cut him off before he could complete his words. “I’m not sure you even believe those words yourself”, and she walked away. Paul stood there because every word she said was true and he couldn’t chase her because she was right nothing he said could change things.

Who are you in this story? Are you Jess who knows she isn’t the one in the heart of someone she loves or are you Paul who still loves his ex but want to be in a relationship with someone that he is not sure he loves?

If you’re Jess in this story, be as bold as she was and ask, even though she knew it would hurt, she still did it and walked away, follow her example. But if you’re Paul well I have a word or two for you, instead of jumping into another relationship heal, try to get over your ex.

A rebound hardly works and even if it does it take time for you to love the person you’re with, and that’s not fair to either you or the person. Heal, take all the time you need, don’t try to get back at your ex or go into another relationship to feel loved. It’s very unhealthy, so make the right decision and leave, yes it might hurt but its better than pretending to love them.

Once you are out of it, do the next step “getting over your ex”, hard but I know you can do it. Now stay posted because that is what is next and I’ll help you through it.


Read every word carefully and follow my instructions.

Go to a mirror, look carefully and tell me what you see, how do you feel about the person you see. Are all the thoughts flowing right now negative or you are happy and optimistic about the person you see? Well if its positive thoughts I’m so glad you are happy about the person you saw but if you looked at the mirror and all saw were flaws, imperfections, etc, let’s start again. Follow me; I want to show you something, look at the mirror again and say these words

 1. I look beautiful 
 2. I am strong. I can overcome this
 3. I can do it. I will not give up
 4. I will not try to be anyone else. Being me is enough.
 5. I am amazing
 6. I can do anything  

Loving oneself is hard at times; you might see flaws or hear so many negative statements from people but don’t let anything get to you, don’t let it make you feel less about yourself. You are amazing! Tell yourself that, believe it and you will see no one can make you feel less about yourself anymore. Confident in loving yourself carries a whole level of beauty, so my dear honeybun, wear that confidence and never take it off. Love your perfection and your flaws, love everything that makes you, you. So keep going to the mirror daily until you believe every word you have said until you finally love yourself.


We all feel tired at one point when it comes to school. It’s draining and stressful, but it’s no reason to give up. School stress is a whole different level, class throughout the day, be pressured by your parents, teachers, etc., to come out first, we feel so tired about the pressure and want to stop trying but no, don’t give up keep pushing. So here are some quotes to keep you going in school;

1. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”


2. Never let the fear of striking out stop you from playing the game.”


3. “Study while others are sleeping; work while others are loafing; prepare while others are playing; and dream while others are wishing.”


4. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”


5. “Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing yourself and turn it into something positive.”


6. “Don’t quit yet, the worst moments are usually followed by the most beautiful silver linings. You have to stay strong, remember to keep your head up and remain hopeful.”


7. “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.”


8. “Don’t give up. There are too many nay-sayers out there who will try to discourage you. Don’t listen to them. The only one who can make you give up is yourself.”


9. “You can’t let your failures define you. You have to let your failures teach you.”


10. “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.”



Why not make yourself look good and save money at the same time. Here are 5 beauty hacks that are 100 percent natural and can be made at the comfort of your home.


Pour an egg white into a bowl and a tablespoon of honey and mix. Apply to skin with a cotton pad. Leave it on until it for 10 to 15minutes, then rinse it off. It helps in preventing breakout and clears acne.


Mix the one tablespoon of honey with a tablespoon of sugar and half a teaspoon of olive oil (or any natural oil of your choice). Mix properly. Apply to lips with fingertips and massage the lips for 3 to 4 minutes. Rinse with water and dry. It helps remove dead skin and keeps it softer and moisturize.


Take a cucumber from the fridge, cut it into slices. Apply two pieces on both eyes, make sure the dar circle area is covered. Leave for 15 to 20 minutes and rinse. Rest on the bed or couch when doing it. It helps for dark circles, tired or puffiness of the eyes.


Mix castor oil, avocado oil and coconut oil and then apply to hair. The castor helps for hair growth, the avocado oil helps for nourishment, and the coconut oil helps as conditioning. They help in hair growth.


Use either shea butter or coconut oil. Apply on the area and massage for 5-10 minutes. Do it every day before going to bed.


Everyone needs the motivation to push them forward. There are times you might feel like giving up or you don’t see the importance to anything even yourself, you need to be reminded some of these things. I believe we all need a little motivation sometimes to keep us going, even myself.

Sometimes I get tired or frustrated and feel like giving up mostly in the school and blogging area, then I go straight to a podcast or YouTube videos about motivational speeches related those areas, and it helps a lot. So, I dedicated my Mondays to giving motivational quotes from great men and women to my readers, and I hope it helps.


1. “Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.”


2. “God didn’t make a mistake when He made you. You need to see yourself as God sees you.


3. “You can’t control everything – you just have to do your best with every opportunity.” 


4. “Instead of concentrating on your problems and getting discouraged, focus on God and meditate on His promises for you. You may have fallen down, but you don’t have to stay down. God is ready, willing and able to pick you up.”


5. “Sometimes what makes us insecure and vulnerable becomes the fuel we need to be overachievers. The antidote for a snakebite is made from the poison, and the thing that made you go backward is the same force that will push you forward.”



A previous post of mine spoken on keeping your virginity, and that it is still a trend, but one question came to mind “what if you are old fashioned”.

As much as they are those who are keeping their body, they are also those who lost their virginity. Maybe it wasn’t your fault, and it was taken from you, or you gave it out freely, whatever the case may be. Losing your virginity isn’t the end of the world for you; there is still hope.

I had a plan to write this article myself but then during my research to confirm somethings I saw another fantastic blogger’s work on the same topic, and she put it better. So I decided to post her work and all credit to her, her site is The naked convos (TNC) is an award-winning unique storytelling platform showcasing the best original African stories. Join us and connect with a community of readers and writers.


It happened during CDS again.

The “are you a virgin question” was thrown at me.

I smiled and thought, he obviously doesn’t read my blog, neither has he read my book, he’d have known the answer to that question already. My answer to the “are you a virgin question” isn’t one that’s hidden. Almost everyone who really knows me know that I am not a virgin – at least I am not one according to the world’s standards.

In fact, everyone who has had a serious conversation with me about how I came to God already know that yes, I was wrapped in sexual sins before – pornography, masturbation, pre-marital sex and the works for a long time. I even had an abortion(s) while I was in it. And I say this with no iota of pride. I say this because I have been set free from hiding the past and from thinking that I am that same girl who had multiple sexual trysts with a guy who wasn’t her husband.

My book “Chastity For Men” arose out of a deep burden in my heart to let men know that they can also keep themselves chaste even though they may have fallen into sexual sins in the past.

My intention was to only collate a series of guest posts from men who were living chaste and when God asked me to also share my story, I balked and cried at the thought of the shame I felt that He wanted to put me through.

I remember postponing the pull to type out my “sex-timony” (as one of my blog readers called it).

I was scared of what people would think.

Yes I had this testimony where God had pulled me out of the grips of sexual addiction, but yes, I was also ashamed of how I would be judged by men.

Almost everyone thinks that a woman who isn’t a virgin (physically) has no right to talk about chastity.

People think that a woman who isn’t a virgin is already spoiled goods, hence the “are you a virgin question”.

Translated into “you don’t have to keep your body chaste anymore, after all you are not a virgin”.

Well, as a lady who isn’t a virgin…

In fact as a lady who isn’t a virgin and has also even struggled with sexual addiction for years, I believe that I am qualified to answer the question on whether a non-virgin still needs to keep her self chaste and abstain from every sexual-related activity before marriage.

I will answer this question by giving you details of my own life and also by sharing the night and day difference God has made of my life with you all.

My journey with sexual sins started when I was in secondary school.

It started with hiding to watch my brother’s “blue films” and stealing his erotic magazines to read.

Somehow, I graduated into masturbation and got hooked.

From masturbation I graduated into having a boyfriend and having sex.

And then I graduated from having sex into committing abortions that arose from having sex before marriage.

I could stop right here and tell you that you need to abstain from sex because it leads to unplanned pregnancy and psychological trauma when you decide to abort the pregnancy but that will only be half the truth.

The entire truth would be that it is only with Christ as the foundation that chastity finds its true value.

But let me complete my story and show you how true my above my statement is…

I finally gave my life to Christ and decided to leave relationships that weren’t God’s will for me but the masturbation and porn wasn’t so easy to leave behind.

There was just a stronghold that I couldn’t seem to break free of on my own.

I was a tongue talking believer who still browsed X-rated sites at night and slipped fingers under my panties to relieve myself of built in sexual tension I had stoked by awakening sexual feelings before it’s time.

Some persons may argue that masturbation isn’t a sin as its not expressly stated in the Bible and to them, I have just one way you can ascertain the truth for yourself.

Can you browse X-rated sites, masturbate and say “Lord, this is for your glory?”

We are to be led by the Spirit in us as believers, not by the world’s ideologies.

If you are truly born again and are wrapped in sexual addictions – pre-marital sex, pornography, masturbation, etc… do you feel the spark to rush in and worship God after you are done?

Despite what the world may tell you or what justification we may want to make for certain things, if we truly have the Spirit of God in us, He leads us into all truth.

For me I knew that masturbation and pornography were a big no-no for God.

They were drawing me back from functioning in my identity in Christ Jesus.

I spent days wrapped in guilt and condemnation instead of days wrapped in the joy of the Lord.

Some of us are wrapped in that same guilt trap today.

We just don’t know how to stop. We make decisions to stay off sex and lustful pleasures, but he/she touches us and we melt into butter.

I have found this to be true; we can have victory over sexual temptations if we would only just hearken to God’s Word to FLEE and not reason it out with him/her.

Like my Pastor Nat would say, “Don’t dance around crayfish if you are a rat”.

So where was I with my story?

Oh yes, the struggle to be free from addiction to masturbation and pornography.

I struggled with this for years after being born again before I found this truth…

I wasn’t supposed to be struggling anyway, I was simply supposed to “walk in the Spirit and I shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16)

For all the times I fell into sexual sins, I let the flesh rule.

I had unguarded moments of walking in the flesh; the perfect environment for sin to thrive.

I chose to load up an X-rated site instead of a Christian blog.

I chose to pick up an explicit romantic novel instead of a novel like Karen Kingsbury’s which would feed my soul.

I stoked up on the lust of the flesh instead of the power of the Spirit.

All the years of struggling came to an end after just one Word that came alive in me.

It’s been one year going and I have neither watched a pornographic movie nor slipped my hands under my panties to pleasure myself.

I have seen tremendous growth with God; one unhindered by sexual sins.

I have lived in the victory over sin that Christ has given to me, not in the shame and guilt sin brings.

And this victory was what I simply wanted men to walk in when I put together my book “Chastity For Men”.

I mentioned that I even had an abortion while I was in the world (the story is on my blog) and was held under the weight of psychological trauma for a long time.

Those who know my story wonder about this girl who simply shines her light in Christ right now… they don’t know that I am awed at myself too, only God could have wrought this change in me.

So for everyone who says that a non-virgin doesn’t have any need to keep her/his body chaste anymore, I say that’s a lie.

You are as chaste as anyone if you are in Christ Jesus.

I do not even remember that I was that sin stained girl in the past anymore except when I have to share my story like now.

It’s almost as though there’s a demarcation between that person and me right now.

When the Bible says that you are a new creation in Christ Jesus, it means it.

My past cannot recognize me right now, never.

And I have gotten this truth about virginity that the world seems to be missing out on…

Colossians 1.19-22

“For God in all his fullness was pleased to live in Christ, and through him God reconciled everything to himself. He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ’s blood on the cross. This includes you who were once far away from God. You were his enemies, separated from him by your evil thoughts and actions. Yet now he has reconciled you to himself through the death of Christ in his physical body. As a result, he has brought you into his own presence, and you are holy and blameless as you stand before him without a single fault.”

I am not pure as a result of my virginity, I am pure because God has made me so by virtue of His blood that was shed for me on the cross of calvary.

He did a perfect work there, so much so that God doesn’t look at whether my hymen has been broken or not as a prerequisite for me chaste in Him.

I am chaste in Him once I accept Him into my life and recognize the fact that who I was before I came to Him is dead and gone.

So if anyone asks me if I am a physical virgin, I would say no.

But then I am more than a physical virgin right now, I am pure and chaste because God calls me so.

I am not keeping my body because it’s a thing of pride, I am keeping it for the one who saved me. He says that my body is His, it’s not meant to be given to any Tom and Harry who asks.

My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I don’t want to desecrate it with sexual sins.

He has saved me and redeemed me from all those sins. Now I am pure in Him and by His grace I will keep on being so.

To all the re-virgins out there like me, you are as pure and chaste as any “virgin” you know.

The worth of your body isn’t in what the world sees.

The worth of your body lies in the one who has washed and cleansed you from sins.

He has called you holy and that is who you are.

For everyone who struggles with sexual sins…

I understand how it is because I was once like you.

I cannot condemn you, I can only give you what God gave me – LOVE irrespective of what maybe happening in your life.

I can also give you the reassurance from my own story that you can live in purity and chastity again and rise above sexual sins.

God gave me the go-ahead to share my story because He knows that it would free others from the world’s orientation and belief about sex.

I was ashamed to share before now but now I see.

I see that the world needs light to shine on their ideologies about sex.

I see that men and women need to rise above the shame that arises from sexual addictions.

I see that we wrap a lot of our struggles under the carpet and we have no one to talk to because everyone seems to be so perfect.

Everyone talks about getting married a virgin, no one talks about the fact that they slept with 11 men and had abortions before they came to Jesus.

We, believers seem to forget that we are all imperfect and only Jesus’s perfection has made us who we are.

Those who have been healed by Jesus need to share their stories and share the light.

We need to tell others that this light can make them whole too.

And if you struggle with sexual sins, I am certain that if you are ready to let God work on you like He did on me, you can live in victory over them.

It would take days for me to reproduce everything about my story and the book that arose from my story with sexual sins here.

But the book – “Chastity For Men” (the e-copies) is for free and you can get more on getting freedom from sexual sins in it.

The title suggests that it’s for men and it was written with men in mind but the steps really can be applied and followed by everyone.

The light and knowledge in it is for everyone and I even got biased a little bit and added an exclusive chapter for the ladies.

I am certain that this book will be a blessing to you like it has been to others and you can get it by clicking here.

Remember that virgin or not, you have every right to keep your body chaste in Christ.

Whenever you feel that you don’t…

Whenever you feel like you are dirt and feel condemned by the standards of men on being pure…

Remember me – the soiled stained girl with the shady past – the girl who had blood on her hands from killing her own babies – the girl who was wrapped in sexual addictions… but who is now a pure bride of Christ Jesus.

Remember me the girl who God still uses for His purposes and be encouraged.

If you are in Christ, then you are pure.

You are holy.

And being a virgin (or not) can never change that fact.



Don’t forget to grab a tissue

Well, guys, it’s time to cry your heart out. You know those times you feel heartbroken or just in need of some love, well I’m bringing you some romantic movies that can cause your heart to melt. Crying is a good thing; we have to let our emotions out once in a while because holding everything isn’t always good for your health.

So, before you begin to watch these movies, there are some rules:

1. Don’t do anything else; only focus on the film.

2. Don’t forget to switch off the light; it always set the mood.

3. Open your heart

4. Most importantly grab some tissues, you’ll need it.

Here are our picks:

1. Irreplaceable you

Abbie is diagnosed with cancer, knowing she will soon go, she is determined to find a new love for her fiancé and soulmate Sam. This movie is a real tear-jerker, just imagining trying to find a new love for your partner just because you’ll soon go. That’s love at its peak.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.

2. The fault in our stars

Meet Hazel Grace, who has cancer and live in her sad world until she meets Augustus, who shows her life is worth living even if you don’t live long. I believe this movie has a message, and it’s a movie worth watching to learn that message and also cry. Promise me you will watch it “Okay“.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Disney+, HBO.

3. A walk to remember

He agreed not to fall in love with her, but why would he, he thought to himself, she was in a low class, had a weird sense of fashion, and so much more. Still love has a way of crawling in; this is Landon and Jamie’s love story.

Where to watch: Netflix, Disney+, Amazon.

4. Me before you

Louisa Clark just lost her job, and she’s left with only one work, that is taking care of Will Traynor, the hateful man who got paralyzed after an accident. This movie is an emotional roller coaster, so get ready to cry.

Where to watch: Netflix, Disney+, Amazon.

5. Five feet apart

Even five feet couldn’t keep them for loving. Teen romance is just so beautiful but not always the ending you want it to be. Meet Stella and Will, who lived their adventure in a hospital and lived it so happily.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.

6. Adrift

This is one movie that you wouldn’t see the end coming. Trapped in a horrible hurricane, Tami and Richard try to find a way to survive. With so much misfortune and fear, their love is the only thing keeping them going.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon.

7. La La Land

Is your dream greater than the love you have? Sebastian and Mia are put to the test through their troubles in fulfilling their dreams which they both work so hard to achieve.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Hulu.

8. If I stay

In coma wondering, if the person you love will ever wake up. Adam is faced with this difficulty as his love is laying down fighting for her life. Will Mia ever wake up, find out.

Where to watch: Amazon, Hulu.

9. Up

Who said animations couldn’t be romantic? Carl still in pain of losing the love of his life, his wife, Ellie, was encouraged by a young boy, Russell to fulfil the promise he made to his wife.

Where to watch: Disney+, Amazon.

10. About time

Given the ability to time travel, what will you use it for? Well, Tim Lake used his extraordinary ability to chase his love, Mary, but he had some troubles along the way.

Where to watch: Netflix, Amazon, Hulu.

5 Instagram Comic Illustrators that will make your day

Hey Hon buns, so guess what it is Friday Funday. I dedicated every Friday to give a form of entertainment, something to keep you company either movies to watch, novels to read, or even comics. So don’t miss any Friday posts. Well, today is about comics and I really do think people should be reading them more, just to relieve stress or for laughs and so much more. I really do admire comic illustrators because it is amazing what they do and they are really talented. So I’m sharing some of the comics I read on Instagram and totally will recommend to anyone, hope you enjoy it. I will also love to hear the comics you read, just drop them at the comment sections.

  1. TAG COMICS / @tag comics

I love this comic so much, it is an African comic, so many amazing people work on it. It is so relatable, I find myself in the comic, it has humor. If you just need a good laugh just follow them and scroll down and begin to enjoy your time in it. So many stories to get read in this particular comic and when you check it out tell me your favourite character.

2. THE GOOD ADVICE CUPCAKE @thegoodadvicecupcake

Cutest cupcake ever! This is where to get only positive vibes! There is so much joy, happiness, kindness, it’s like a rainbow in this comic and I totally love it because it is not every time you will be happy or maybe you had a bad day or you just feel down about yourself. Well, I recommend you start following this comic because everything will just change. I really love the person or team behind this for spreading so much love daily and making people feel special about themselves. So what are you waiting for guys go check it out.

3. HUBMAN AND CHUBGIRL @hubman.chubgirl

I love these couples and also firstly want to congratulate them on their baby, Floobie. Hubman and chubgirl adventures is really cute, full of love and it is so amazing what they just do. The comic is a chilled and relaxing one filled with laughs and entertainment, hope you enjoy it.

4. THE POTATO COUPLE @thepotatocouple

Cuteness at its peak! If you are in need of a heart melting comic you are in the right place. This comic soften your heart and make you just want to fall in love, their adventures are the cuteness and i totally love them, hope you do too. Before i forget the graphics are so cute.

5. SAM @samtheartkid

This is a casual and cool comic for relaxation and entertainment. Sam’s adventures are practically his thoughts in drawngs and it is really student related. Go take a look and enjoy your time there and let me not forget i am a huge fan of his illustrations, he is really talented. Tell me what you think at the comments.

First apologises for the late post been busy with school. I really hope you guys like it and also if you have any other comic you could recommended and comment.

Virginity is still a trend

“They have forgotten their morals, the values

They hold their flower and with their hands

But crush it instead of holding it tight

Closing their ears to the wisdom of the old

They forget their home training

They forget their mother words

Your virginity should be secured”, they were told

But now they choose to follow the crowd

Corrupting their thoughts with the words of a friend

Corrupting their eyes with the nakedness of the screen

And opening their bodies for display.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20 (NLT)

Generations has fallen   

They destroy their bodies and tie their souls unknowingly

They forget the word of the Lord

And leave a mess in the temple where He dwells

They put Him off his throne in their heart

And crown pleasure their king

O future generation

Do not be deceived by the people

Do not let the world lie to you

Hear me out loud

Secure the bag

Hold your flower

Being a virgin doesn’t make you less a teen or an adult

I speak not only to the ladies

For it is presumed to the world to all the female

I also speak to the males

Wait till marriage

Virginity is still a trend”.


I believe this issue is getting worst each day, people losing their virginity and they don’t see the value especially the case of the teenagers. I know you want to fulfill your desire but you have control over your flesh, don’t let your flesh control you. All you need is the Holy Spirit.

Well, there are those whose virginity has already been taken away either willingly, by force, or even some that are just lost and tired of failed love and chose to take this path, it’s okay it’s not over for you, stay tuned for my next post and find hope.

So I really recommend this video for anyone who needs to understand more or those who lost hope about all these things. This video is by one of my pastors , Pastor Michael Todd, a really great man. If you love this video just subscribe to their channel and watch the preachings because it really changes lives. Don’t forget to leave a comment about anything, I hoped this helped.


I am proud
Proud of where I come from
Proud of the colour of my skin
Proud of those who raised me
Proud of the clan I belong to
I embrace my culture
I feast on delicacies cooked by the women of the culture
I dance to the beat of the drums
And sing along to every song and rhymes
I hear the stories of our ancestors
Of the people who made these possible
They are true heroes
They fought till we were free
People mock and shame my culture
But these land is a united fort (Check that out)
Where do I belong you may ask
Who are my people
Well I am a Nigerian
From the clan of a great nation
I beat my cheat and make a boost
For I know where I am from
This is my pride


Hey, honeybuns, well I’m going on a break from the blog for some while. I got exams coming up and I really need to focus on that now, really sorry about that.

I also want to appreciate you guys, I received a lot of wonderful comments and you don’t know how happy that makes me. In the process of replying, I might have replied a few people twice because I wasn’t sure if have replied or not, and if I didn’t reply to you that was a mistake please notify me because ever comment matters to me.

So I realized I don’t really post my videos on my blog, so I am going to show you the videos related to every post have written and my inspirations.

Well, wish my luck in my exams and see you guys soon. Love you❤

So till then, love yourself, be the best version of yourself every day, and believe in yourself you can do anything you put your mind too. If you need someone to talk to you can contact me on any platform, just check my page for it. ❤❤❤


His pov

Well my love story is just like every other person, I met her online I saw her pictures and decided to slide in her dm, we spoke to each other once and just that one time I was drawn to her voice then we continued talking I noticed her adorable giggles and how funny she was she made me laugh even when I felt my lowest, she was everything to me.

I wanted to meet her I just knew I had to cause I knew after a month I have fallen for that woman and she became my world. It strange to fall for someone online but this feeling was so different I wanted her to be my girlfriend but that question I needed to ask her face to face.

Her pov

“He asked if we can meet,” I said to my friend, well go ahead tell him yes she said, what are you waiting for. I was so nervous to meet him I didn’t want him to know the truth about me. After some thoughts I decided to take the risk, I called him and told him YES!

His pov

She said yes, with so much joy in me she finally agreed to meet. What will I wear, my hair is a mess, so many things ran through my mind. I needed to look my best, so I had just three days to the special day I said to myself, I called and made the reservation for the dinner.

3 days gone

Her pov

It’s today, nervously walking back and forth, why did I say yes I asked my friend, don’t worry I’ll be there with you she said those words sound comforting she said so relaxed I got ready

I wonder how the date will go when he finds out she is blind… what will you do if you were in the situation

BEING BLIND, DUMB OR DEAF OR WHATEVER ISN’T A DISABILITY IS JUST YOU WITH A DIFFERENT ABILITY (I remember hearing this and it was just beautiful to hear)


We are all looking for our Mr Right or some our Mr Perfect, don’t these mixed up they ain’t the same thing

.Mr Right – that one you want to share your life with, that will make you happy and will be your world

.Mr Perfect – that 6’5 guy that you dream of, so handsome with a smile that can charm and the money. that person that you want to look like Chris Hemsworth with the six-pack, that dream guy we all have

but what happens if no Mr Perfect never shows up and all the guys that ask you out ain’t as handsome as you want him to be or don’t have the six-packs you wish to see when he takes off his shirt, what if you never meet Mr Perfect.

Do you keep waiting for him then you reject all the guys that might not be perfect but are ready to be your ride or die, your world, and your everything? He is ready to be your Mr right but also your Mr Perfect on the inside,

ill call him your Mr Rightly Perfect.

.Mr Rightly Perfect – the one who could risk it all for you but he might not be Chris Hemsworth or your dream guy but he is perfect on the inside even more than you Mr Perfect.

and maybe what if your Mr Perfect shows up and he has a rage and an anger issue he can’t control then he hits you once and apologise, hits you again and still apologises and then the beating continues but this time with no apologises.

then at that moment you got the muscles and 6 packs you wanted but when you look at him you no longer see your Mr Perfect, all you see is a monster and at that moment you wonder what would have happened if you picked the other guy

But then some girls get lucky, they have their Mr Perfect and he is both perfect on the inside and out. that’s what I call Mr Perfectly Right

Mr Perfectly Right – he got the looks, the upper bodybuilding, the charm and the same time his heart is just right, he is ready to be the world to you.

So don’t just love the looks, the fame, the money, or the bodybuilding, love what’s inside too. He might not be your dream guy but he is RIGHTLY PERFECT FOR YOU

so it’s your call.


Ever taught about writing to the ones you love
To God, your family, your friends, your best friend, so on
You know the people we love the most are the ones you tease a lot or joke around it
Why not just write a letter to them
I don’t only mean through pen and paper; you can just send them through any social media you want
Tell them how much you love them and mean to them
Tell them you never want them to leave
Just keep reminding them who there are to you
I wrote mine a year ago
I wrote to God, my music, my family, my best friend, friends and my future love
But things has changed now
My first love is God
My 2nd was my music but now my family
My 3rd was my family but things changed
My 4th was my best friend but now I don’t a bf anymore yet but my second half which I love alot
My 5th is my friends and still my friends
My 6th is still my future love for now
Crazy right love grows, love fades and love dies
Just keep writing to your love ones so it wouldn’t die
Or if you ain’t the writing type just tell them
Keep that love burning


These three words always get me upset, but to an extent it is true, so I can’t complain.

My mother always told me the exact words every time I am making my hair and complaining that it hurt; she would “Beauty is pain”, but then who beauty help. So no matter the tears, I was never allowed to cut my hair.

But what if I don’t want to be beautiful? What is so wrong with looking ugly. My skull hurts from this hair, but I look so pretty every time I check the mirror, so I always tell myself, “three more days and the pain will be all over”.

The crazy thing it always did, but recently I am tired, not only of the pain but just the thoughts of making it. All I need is ten wigs, different colours and styles and I’ll cut my hair.

When I was little, my mother always said cutting my hair as a girl wasn’t good; she would tell some stories and say a few things and boom, I wouldn’t want to cut my hair again, mothers jazz.

Funny thing, now I’m older, once I complained about my hair she would be willing even to help me cut it, the irony right.

Don’t look at me like something is wrong with me. I have a tender scalp, only those that have the same scalp as me will understand. When I am relaxing my hair, I can’t stay up to 5minutes (please tell me I am not the only one). I hardly change the person making my hair because of the pain and they are used to me, once the making process begins, I can cry. Yeah, it’s that bad.

Now you may wonder why I can’t barb my hair and relieve myself from this stress once and for all, well so many reasons are holding me down;

1. Nigeria’s heat (if you live in this country, you can relate)

I doubt I’ll carry my cut hair out due to some personal reasons, so I’ll have to wear a wig and trust me when I say this country sun isn’t playing.

2. Lol, I don’t even have the wigs.

Currently, I have one, but I don’t want to wear one throughout my life until my wardrobe is blessed with two or more wigs.

3.  Lowkey, I love braids.

Yes, I love the fact you can do any style when it comes to braids and their low budget.

4. This will sound silly, but I might look ugly.

Yes, I am human and have some insecurities that I am still dealing with, so yes, I don’t want to.

I tried going natural though, and well, let’s say it didn’t work out for me. Lol.

So if I ever cut my hair in the future, don’t worry honeybuns, I will surely gist you about it.


There was a time that I once thought living healthy was a scam, the whole eating vegetable, fruits and eating less, what could I gain from that I thought. Until all of a sudden, I found myself obese at the age of 18, even then I still didn’t care “bring on the food it can’t stop me from eating my pizza and ice cream everyday.”

My mum tried talking to me about it, but I always find a way, but then the day came I couldn’t breathe I couldn’t find my breathe I didn’t know was happening then I had to be rush to the hospital.

A few hours later, I was treated, but the doctor told me it could happen again if I don’t take care of my health. “I was annoyed, but at the same time I knew what I had to do.”

I finally agreed to my mum’s instruction and I started a healthy lifestyle, and guess what after a year I was no longer obese, I wanted to get back to my eating junks so bad, but I was warned to continue this lifestyle if I want to live long. I almost felt death, so I listened to the advice and had no issues until then.

We need to start living right, live a life we will be proud. Watch what you eat and take care of the body. Living a healthy life is an essential thing that needs to be said to everyone, it might be hard at first because we are used to ordering pizza always, having a plate heaped with food, sitting down all day, etc.

Have heard that phrase “I want to go on a diet”, yes, it is a good thing, but sometimes we forget that going on a diet should be normal. When we eat little, take fruit, work out, etc, that should be the life we should live.

Assumptions and truth about healthy living:

1. Once you start, you will get used to it. Yes, but not immediately. Know you are throwing away a lifestyle you once had for years, so there are times you want to sneak and eat or give up. Don’t! Train your body and mind then you will get used to it.,

2. Living healthy is not a punishment. I have heard some statement like “how can I eat grass like an animal”, firstly you wouldn’t be only eating vegetable there are different diet plans to stick to, and you are helping your body. You’re not suffering at all; you are living a longer and better life

3. Living healthy is not only for fat people. “I’m not fat; I am already slim you want to kill me, and so much more statement like this. You might not have the body that gets fat, but what you put inside your body matters, there is diabetes, high blood pressure, etc and it happens to both slim and fat, so start taking care of your body no matter the size

4. You don’t quit living healthy once you’ve gotten your goal. Imagine you were like 100kg and you started living healthy and dropped to your goal like 80kg. You don’t stop eating well or stop exercising because of it, continue that healthy habit.

5. You don’t stop taking snacks forever. This scare people, the fact they think their favourite snack is eradicated from their lives. It is not just taken everyday like you use to, it will be once in a blue moon maybe once a week or two weeks.

Tips to start a healthy lifestyle

1. Drink lots of water. 5 to 8 glasses a day will do

2. Reduce the quantity of food you take, that means no more heaping of your plates

3. Avoid junks such as pizza, hamburgers, etc

4. Don’t take carbonated drinks and sugar

5. Take fruits and detox water helps the system.

6. Exercise at least 3-5 times a week

7. Don’t eat late and avoid snacks at night

 Exercises you can do:

1.  Skipping

2. Jogging

3. Aerobatics

4. Running

5. Cycling